Joe “JoePa” Paterno has been the Head Coach for Penn State College Football team for many years. He has sent 250 players to the NFL, and has accolades that focus on his leadership.
Today however is a sad day for many who have learned that his former defensive coordinator committed horrible acts against children.
“Paterno said in a statement Wednesday he is “absolutely devastated” by the developments in the case of Jerry Sandusky, a former defensive coordinator accused of molesting eight boys over 15 years.”- CBS NEW YORK
It is unclear to me why a ten-year old boy would be on campus or in the locker room of a college football team, but I’m sure many of our questions will be answered as the stories unfold. Jerry Sandusky has been charged with 40 counts of sexual abuse/acts against young boys.
What is however clear to me is that silence has no race, gender, occupation or religion. Silence as it relates to sexual abuse especially child sexual abuse has everything to do with fear.
Fear and Love are opposite attractions. The bible sees them as to positions that can not co-exist.
I question the actions of all adults involved. As an advocate who teaches, “Ten Ways to Safeguard your Child from Sexual Abuse”, I want to remind you of a few helpful hints that can support you in protecting a child, any child near you.
Many of the children in show business were sexually molested by producers, managers and adults that their parents trusted to care for them while they became famous. There are a lot of parents who put their trust in coaches and clergyman.
64 percent of child sexual predators have a job. I published a previous blog that provides a lot of information about predators. The name of the blog is titled, “What does the bible say about Child Sexual Abuse and Molestation, and what will we do as a body to prevent it within the church?”
Parents please remember that predators, are exactly that. A person addicted to crack will go on a hunt to find it. Someone addicted to television will do what is necessary to stay glued to the television regardless of what has to be neglected. A predator methodically plans a hunt by working in fields where children are to make access easier. The predator will be your friend just to get to your child.
What can we learn from this?
As a mother of a child in tenth grade what I gather from this highly televised story is that although they are focusing on the headline of abuse, it is being drowned out by the immorality of Paterno. Paterno’s character is being attacked more than the predator.
The first thing we can learn is that we must keep the main thing, the main thing. The hearts, emotions, and current status of the boys are my first concern. They need to know that they are not at fault, and that they are not going to be used as a pawn to assassinate the character of Joe Paterno.
“JoePa” was morally wrong for not following up on allegations that were brought to him. But his actions should not out-way that of the perpetrator.
The second thing we can learn from this is how necessary it is for parents to be heavily involved in their children’s schedules, not trusting of anyone especially individuals with a certain amount of “fame” or “accomplishment” because of what they do and where they work. Studies show that while physical abuse is higher and more isolated in poor communities, child sexual abuse is higher in upper echelon communities. Predators, have jobs and 77 percent are married. They choose children they know and have access to 90 percent of the time.
Ten Ways to Safeguard your Child from Sexual Abuse is something I created to help you to prevent the vulnerability to a predator with your child, and to teach you how to arm yourself to make sure that you don’t build relationship with one.
While 84-year old Joe Paterno has either resigned or been fired (different reports say different things), the saddest thing is that he will be remembered for the time he was out of integrity. What this means to me is that we do honor integrity and character over football games, and everything else.We as a country do care about how someone is treated, at least children.
Joe admitted he should have done more. With that said, I want you to remember to do more. You don’t have to be a famous person or Joe Paterno to defend a child. You can be in the right place at the right time, feel uncomfortable enough to step in and lead a child to safety.
Could the police have been contacted with allegations? Yes, they could have been but if they did not take the matter seriously, even if the police were not contacted Child Protective Services could have been.
They do investigations of abuse on children and it doesn’t have to be in the home. They would have held the parents accountable only if they knowingly allowed this to happen otherwise this was a viable resource.
I have finished taping the DVD for Ten Ways to Safeguard your Child from Sexual Abuse but it is not ready for the public yet. What I do have is my voice!
I am available to speak at churches, conferences, groups, and the like about parenting, The Power of Saying No!, The Ten Ways…, and a few other topics I can share upon request.
We cannot keep waiting for headlines. Speak Now!!! Be Equipped Now!!! Learn “The Ten Ways to Safeguard your Child from Sexual Abuse” Now!!!
This situation may be tattooed by College Football, but it is a Coach with young children (as the allegations report), with eye-witnesses. The campus was just being used from what I can read.
Also remember that in college, 1 and 4 women are sexually assaulted. We can use this as an opportunity to retrain our mind-sets, and to prepare our out-going high school children in self-defense, predator awareness, and tips that prevent them from being readily accessible to a perpetrator.
The Bible and Child Sexual Abuse: http://ressurrection.wordpress.com/2011/07/22/what-does-the-bible-say-about-child-sexual-abuse-and-molestation-and-what-will-we-do-as-a-body-to-prevent-it-within-the-church/