Barack Obama Supporting Same-Sex Marriage: Is It Paving The Way For Child Sexual Abuse To Become Accepted In Today’s Society?

Was My Friend Relating A Prophecy?

I remember back in or around 2002-2003 speaking to a woman on the phone who was a friend at the time that spoke about how the world would end and Jesus would return at the hands of a black president.

She shared with me in the bible how the war of religion started and gave me a starting point for my own journey to gain knowledge about how this saga would play out. Her thoughts were clearly before we have ever known who Barack Obama was in Chicago, and subsequently America, and the entire world. I find it quite interesting that he is of mixed race as was Mohammed of the Nation of Islam religion. Later in this article you’ll see a video that is believed to have observed Minister Louis Farrakhan call President Barack Obama the Messiah.

He is attractive, fair-skinned so he does not scare any wary opposing groups, and he has a serious walk that can be categorized as a popular slang term called “swag” or “swagger.” His wife is black (dark-skinned), which believe it or not does help his vote with the black community because it shows strength and honor of marriage in the black family.

If he was a white man with a black woman, I believe he would be equally supported. However, if he was a white woman (as president) with a black man (as husband), that would be an uncomfortable place for many.

As mature as America tries to see itself, it is still racist, not conservative or cautious – racist. In the case for Barack Obama stating that he supports gay marriage however, it seems that some people have equated his views to a civil rights issue while others see it as a damnable offense.

OPINION: Obama on Same-Sex Relationships

In one article that was written by a self-proclaimed “Queer” who is a Graduating student and contributing writer for a Boston-based newspaper, Michelle Weiser  says that, “I am not jumping for joy at Obama’s “personal acceptance” of gay marriage.”  Of her girlfriend she quotes, “I’m very wary of applauding a leader tokenizing me and my people to make him look electable.”  The article continues,

Obama seems to be saying to LGBT and socially liberal voters, “See? Look at all these great things I’m doing for you, now stop complaining about my immigration policies and economic fumbles.”

The article with Michelle Weiser was one of the best that I have read on this timely matter however what I found most alarming about her article was a quote from a Queer Afro-Feminist blogger named SpectraSpeaks. She said,

“Marriage may be a flawed institution. But too much rides on it for us not to care. Let everyone get it, then we can get rid of it.”

In other words, there is a group of people who believe that marriage should be abolished altogether. They find it to be restricting and to lack the necessity of its institution. I found an article with Michael Kinsley which emphasizes his beliefs that marriage should be abolished altogether. The subtitle, “Let’s really get the government out of our bedrooms.”

There is a large homosexual group and non-religious group of people who want marriage for same-sex couples to be legalized so that they can next argue that marriage should not be an institution at all.

In 2009, an article was published by Forbes. Elisabeth Eaves wrote, “If states stop marrying people, they stop discriminating. At the same time, social conservatives score a coup: They no longer have to witness same-sex couples getting government approval for use of the word “marriage.””

Christians and Sexual Morality

As Christians, we have several challenges. We now have many sects of Christianity who promote homosexuality, and have segregated themselves to homosexual fellowships in light of a believed doctrine that homosexuality is in fact something that God does not view as unholy or detestable.

On the other hand we have people like Jamal Bryant who is the pastor of Empowerment Temple in Baltimore, Maryland who is apart of the a community of pastors who are sexually assaulting and molesting members of their congregations.

Most recently a pastor Darrell Gilyard who just left prison after a three year sentence for rape has found a new church to pastor a mile from his last congregation. He has traveled state to state each time as a result of sexual assaulting women. So far the complaint count within the church is forty-four women but he keeps getting hired.

I agree that pastors are ordained by God however, I do believe that when a pastor is a rapist, and is not upholding his pastoral responsibilities, for the safety of everyone he should not be hired or his congregants should have sense enough to find a new church home. Certainly Mr. Gilyard’s rape cases with young girls and adult women are not more important than his charisma in the pulpit!

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Jamal Bryant, Empowerment Temple in Baltimore Maryland

Last year, I read an in-depth online report by Mo’Kelly on the Jamal Bryant and his father John Bryant who is a prominent figure in the A.M.E. church organization. In short, Jamal Bryant’s father John had to settle out-of-court for his responsibility in allowing a now deceased member of clergy to molest children.

Jamal Bryant has had sex with several under-age members which bring up an issue beyond adultery; sexual assault. During his thirty day sabbatical in the wake of pressure from his scandals, he went on an International Speaking Tour making public appearances in the media and scheduled engagements.

In addition, we have Eugene Marriott who was the ministry leader of the Men’s Ministry at Ebenezer  A.M.E. Church in Fort Washington, Maryland who was caught by a witness, and the Fairfax County Police Department (Virginia), brutally raping, sodomizing and beating a woman who was his former mistress after she declined sexual relations with him.

Later, I discovered in a Washington Post article Mr. Marriott escaped his rape charge by convincing the prosecutor Toni Faye (who later resigned), to charge him only with abduction which would not require him to be a registered sexual offender.

Eugene Marriott and this woman while in their relationship created a web page which said on their alternative lifestyle profile,

“We are both professional by day,” the couple wrote,

“but by night we transform into other beings.”

Eugene Marriott was the Minister of Men at the same church where Byron Cage is the Minister of Music. Yes, this is the same Byron Cage that to my surprise was linked to a sexual relationship with Bishop Eddie Long. I can not confirm whether this relationship happened.

There have been additional scandals such as Eddie Long having sex with children that he groomed, and in my humble opinion T.D. Jakes and Creflo Dollar’s statements to defend child sexual abuse were ignorant, uneducated responses.

Creflo Dollar wanted Eddie Long’s members to go back to Long’s church and un-welcomed them during a church service. Not only was this a miscalculated and elementary choice as if to say, “If you don’t like my friend, I don’t like you,” it opened the door for many devoted Christians who are informed about the dangers and the effects of child sexual abuse like me to separate from his ministry.

In T.D. Jakes’ defense after reviewing all of his actions including calling Eddie Long the Spell Breaker during a very intimate spiritual meeting with God present in the service and re-traumatizing the congregation, it serves as a clear message that I need to be hired to speak at more Pastor’s Conferences on the subject of Child Sexual Abuse Grooming. Eddie Long is a text-book case.

And in the Spell breaker T.D. Jakes re-introduced a congregation with their perpetrator. (I will write a separate article about this issue.) This is not much different the Rabbi who is not recognized by his own Jewish leadership which found his ritual actions to proclaim Eddie Long as King to be a fallacy.

Please notice that I have not once said that one could not be forgiven his sin. However the church needs to wake up and identify the difference between a lifestyle choice that is being hidden, and a struggle.

The Repeal Of The Defense Of Marriage Act 1996

As a Christian befitting my responsibility to share insights on the biblical text that refer to homosexuality, I contend that there are many opinions and many ways that people are choosing to live their lives.

On one hand, should we be upset that Obama has said that he has always supported civil unions and now supports gay marriage, I have to disagree with Michelle Weiser’s article who says that this seems to be a move to make him more electable. He is putting his mouth where his heart is. He has called for repeal of the Defense of Marriage Act. In the article by Fox News about Obama’s appearance on the view it reads,

“The Justice Department said in February 2011 that it would no longer defend the Defense of Marriage Act in the courts because the department deemed it unconstitutional, a move that sparked outcry from House Republicans, who vowed to pursue their own legal defense of the law.”

People who are in leadership do not make idle statements. He said a lot in those few words. While some people including Christians may say, “I don’t care I’m voting for Obama anyway,” there are people who are mad that this was a political choice to help his election, and others who say, “By any means necessary.”

The bible is clear that out of the heart the mouth speaks. After speaking to my teenage daughter about this she contended that a person only says what they believe. She said that Obama had to have a certain level of belief about the matter in order to say it. Her stance was to quiet people who feel that he was insincere with his vocal support.

In the below video, I found something interesting about Obama’s choices on policies. People  want to separate the Judge from the ruling, and Obama from his policies. In my personal belief, elections are so heavily weighed on a man’s integrity because people understand that the decisions made will come from the emotional, spiritual, and even physical strength of the president. Although we are supposed to be separated (church and state), it is difficult not to take into account what a man believes, because he is honest in his representation you can find out how he will make things better in our communities.

At the 1:59 point in this video he says, “Whatever we once were, where are no longer a Christian nation, at least not just.” Right around 2:38 Obama asks, “Which passages of scripture should govern our public policy?” He continues, “Should we go with Leviticus…”

He began to refer to slavery and eating shell-fish. While he may not be a pastor and his interpretation is a statement that I recognize more from the conversation of a non-believer who may not have the spiritual knowledge to interpret the scripture without intellect alone, he does not realize that the chapter that speaks about child sexual abuse is also in Leviticus, along with Homosexuality and sexually immoral sins.

What Does The Bible Say About Homosexuality?

My question is, Is Same-Sex Marriage paving the way for child sexual abuse? Now. speaking from a biblical standpoint, I will share what non-denominational Christians believe, and I will end with what I believe about same-sex relationships.

In the above video Jeremiah Wright, Obama’s Pastor is featured who supports abortion, and other Christian-based principles that do not uphold spiritual character and integrity. Minister Louis Farrakhan of the National Of Islam was honored by Reverend Dr. Jeremiah Wright at his church with a Lifetime Achievement “Trumpeteer” Award, and referred to Barack Obama as the Messiah.

“You are who God is going to use to bring about Universal Change.”

- Minister, Louise Farrakhan to President Barack Obama

As I mention in The Bible and Child Sexual Abuse II, the biblical chapter on sexual morality can be found in Leviticus 18:22. The entire chapter covers child sexual abuse, homosexuality, and bestiality, for example. There are additional references including Sodom and Gomorrah which many homosexual pastors often say is not related to homosexuality.

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I hear a lot of people say if homosexuality is supposed to be a sin, what about people who smoke, drink, drug, cuss, lie etc… What I am able to ascertain from scriptures is that no sin has precedence over the other and even in life there are places where we can not cuss, lie, drink, drug etc… Homosexuality is not meant to be viewed as a special sin however, it is identified as something that God hates. It is viewed in scriptures as sexually immoral. Another reference can be found in 1 Corinthians 6:9-10.

In order to understand the Mosaic Law or to know whether Leviticus 18 is relevant to today’s living, we would have to do more of an in-depth study of the time period that this scripture content was written. I do share some information in The Bible And Child Sexual Abuse II that may aid you in your study.

If God Is A Choice, What About Policy?

My goal in this article is to help you to think about your choices. If you are choosing him because he is black, a democrat, an educated black man, a beautiful example of a family (black) man, liberal, a christian (although at this point you have sufficient evidence to question whether your beliefs about God actually align), or any other reason under the sun, you now have the opportunity to sit back and ask yourself in-depth questions about what you believe without any sphere of influence. I want you to first go deep within yourself and be honest about your strengths, weaknesses, fears, declarations, sins, convictions, angers and discontentment about everything we face in life.

In my opinion we have to know ourselves first, and determine where we stand in our own faith before we are influenced by what sounds good in leadership and the media. Do a self-check and examine your own intentions with how you make all of your choices in life, and especially your vote.

In the bible it is clear that their should be separation between church and state. It does show that our spiritual beliefs are different from the government and the reason that our nation was founded on christian beliefs may be because that truth was clouded. Catholicism  was created when individuals were forced to serve the same God as the leader assigned.

Is it a surprise that the government would have different beliefs than the Christian or other religious communities?

THE FINALE: YOUR CHOICE IS BLACK OR WHITE?

When I talked to my husband about his beliefs about same-sex marriages, it prompted me to look at the views of same-sex marriage from all sides.

While I do not support the idea that same-sex marriages are acceptable because this would mean that homosexuality is acceptable and if homosexuality is acceptable so then, child sexual abuse, I have taken a moment to think deeply about what God says about choice.

I often quote the scripture that affirms that God gives us a choice to serve him. He is not a twist-your-arm and beat-you-over-the-head God. He desires an intimate relationship with us, and in accordance to Matthew 7 there will be some who believe that they know his heart but have deceived themselves and others. However, to determine whether Same-Sex Marriage was something that I could view in a different more compelling light I reviewed to specific scriptures.

In Genesis 1:26 (although some people have begun already to change the official text), it says very clearly what we have power and authority over. It is very specific to lean its definition of power and authority that we possess to the earth, animals, beasts, birds etc.

The text also proclaims that we are made in the image and likeness of God (the trinity) which include the Father (God), the son (Jesus), and the holy spirit (which is your helper and your spirit man not to be confused with yourself.)

Ladies and Gentlemen, there is one thing missing here. It does not say that we would control each other. It does not say that we have authority or power over each other. Unlike the government, God seeks to give us the freedom to serve him and to cultivate an authentic relationship. Unfortunately though, even we ourselves can become ensnared and prisoners of our own wars within.

The second scripture that I was reminded of was Romans 10:9-10. It seems to me that people only reference this scripture as it relates to salvation, and often after it is said for the first time, people do not repeat this scripture unless they are offering moral support for someone making a choice to receive salvation.

Salvation and Baptism are two different things, and I do understand that people believe differently about this. In short, Romans 10:9-10 says that you must believe in your heart and (then) confess with your mouth that Jesus died on a cross for our sins.

Your belief and confession are that not only he died but rose again and while their are several examples of resurrections that have taken place in the bible, Jesus’ resurrection was significant because it was done in atonement for our sins.

Here is the phenomenal thing that I love about this scripture, it clarifies that know one really knows your heart but God.

It is a personal pet peeve when I go into funerals and people say that the person that they are mourning is going to heaven. We don’t actually know that. We believe in our hearts, and confess with our mouths however people are plagued by challenges throughout life, and for many they do find redemption in their process.

I am not going to tell you that if you are homosexual that you are going to hell, what I will say however is that there are scriptures that speak specifically about sexual immorality and why would you want to do something that God hates? Why would you not want to please God? Of course, the challenge here is that not all believe homosexuality to be a sin.

If you are a Christian believer, I would gather that you would believe the scriptures as it relates to homosexuality, and if you are a Christian homosexual teaching or living false doctrine then you must go to God and be honest about your lifestyle choice. At the end of the day, what you and God discuss when you see him on the other side is not something that anyone else can be accountable for. I always encourage my family to use wisdom, and make decisions that eternity can live with.

I would much prefer for Eddie Long to say that he is homosexual or a predator (because they are not one in the same), and to be honest about his choice to live whatever life he chooses. He is a perfect example because he believes that homosexuality is wrong. He not only slept with men which is an action that he is against but he transgressed by grooming children until they were old enough to be manipulated sexually by his psychological abuse.

Here is the point, if we are in fact given free will to receive God into our lives and to walk in faith that we call Christianity, believing that these scriptures are true, we must also understand that regardless of what a legal standard is, our spiritual standard will always supercede the government.

I have a strong belief that drugs should be legal, all of them. Drug addicts do not weigh the law to determine whether they will get high, and people in poverty often turn to selling drugs because it is what is made available to them. It is also a world that I understand some people have difficulty escaping. With that said, to buy or sell drugs are choices. It is my belief that the judicial system has used this as a way to enslave African-Americans again. If drugs are unhealthy and unacceptable to be addicted to as a Christian, whether they are lawful or unlawful does not change the addicts spiritual responsibility to health and balance.

So why should same-sex relationships have the same options? A civil ceremony is a marriage that is performed by an Attorney or Wedding Officiant who is not tied to a religious faith such as a minister. Basically, anyone who has ever had a wedding at the Justice of the Peace has been civilly married by a legal document. It takes ten to fifteen minutes. Your faith principles that are necessary to live according to God is what makes your actual wedding ceremony meaningful.

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Someone else brought up the point that Non-believers and Atheists also get married under the current laws. There is a biblical foundation for marriage and my adage to this debate or debacle is that regardless of the laws that change we as Christians maintain the highest level of spiritual responsibility to abide by the scriptural definition and relationship of marriage.

Is Same-Sex Marriage Paving The Way For Child Sexual Abuse?

I have heard several leaders comment that they believe that Same-Sex Marriage could open the door for Polygamy. Polygamy is when a human or animal has more than one wife. In this case, I want to share with you that polygamy and child sexual abuse have little difference.

Many people are under the assumption that Polygamists have more than one adult wife while more truthful is that Mormon’s and other religious groups use spiritual abuse to influence child sexual abuse in children. In other words, these men often call girls as young as 12 there “spiritual” wives.

Polygamists do not usually go out and locate several women to mate, they groom children, and use spirituality as a way to gain entrance to abuse them. Polygamist Leader Warren Jeffs was convicted of child sexual abuse for having a twelve-year-old and a fifteen-year-old as his spiritual wives. He is facing life in prison.

Attachment Parenting: Child Sexual Abuse

A day after the Obama Same-Sex Announcement the cover of Time Magazine allowed the world to see a child sucking his mother’s breast while posing for a photo shoot. This woman mentions that she was apart of attachment parenting with her father, and there is an entire movement of woman who feel liberated and justified to allow their children who are three, four and eight years old continue to sup from their breasts. Somehow, in the Obama hoopla over homosexuality, this disturbing child sexual abuse issue was swept under the rug. The implication here is, “Are you mom enough to abuse your child?”

In this case, I ask you to think about the fact that this woman who was surrounded around Time employees, who took many pictures (because it was a photo shoot), also had to teach her child to suck her breasts in order for the child to be able to assist her in capturing the right picture. She is a liar if she says that it was done in one take. Secondly, I breastfed! It was not liberating, it was a sacrifice for my child to make sure that she had the healthiest meal.

At six months, she bit me so hard I screamed. In order for these parents who believe in “Attachment Parenting” to allow their children to feed from their nipples, they have to either teach the child to do so without hurting them, or they enjoy the biting. Either way, it is a highly sexualized practice at the hand of female perpetrators and they should be stopped immediately.

I certainly do not believe that every child with eat from their mother’s breasts until they are six months old and then they should eat table food. My original plan was do provide collostrum for the first year. As I mention above, It is my stance that children should not be fed from the breast if they are able to stand in a chair and do so, attend school and ask for it in whole sentences (or write in whole sentences.)

Furthermore, from a biblical perspective attachment parenting is not in line. The bible is clear that we as responsible parents and guardians would train up a child in the way that he/she should go and when he/she is old he/she will not depart from it. The idea by using the word training is to teach. Teach is a form of independence, and not attachment.

As soon as Obama’s announcement came, three people called me. Prior to their phone call it was my first thought and then the Time Magazine ad came out! The fight for equal choices for everything will compromise many protections some believe.

As I have mentioned in previous text, I found a website (that will remain unnamed) of a predator who has a book out with a man and a boy on the front cover. He emphasized that it took one hundred years for people to accept homosexuality, and within the next one hundred years there will be an acceptance of a man’s choice to love a boy.

If you notice, everything that I have written has spoken about “choices.” People are fighting for choices. One of my closest friends, my husband and myself all responded to the idea of child sexual abuse becoming legal saying that “Children do not get to choose. It is not consensual.”

Here is the honest truth, some states make the age of consent sixteen. There are organized  non-profit groups that fight for the rights of children. One D.C. based group wants to help children to lower the voting age and give them rights and choices as adults although science  evidence performed by some groups say that children do not know how to make adult choices until 19 and fully at 25. And, if you have been 19-25 already you understand the differences in your experiences with each age.

My concern however is that if we continue to allow subtle entrances of child sexual abuse to be publicized and provide platforms for abusers to massage their agenda into the media, we may find that a political move like Ellen Degeneres who is the cutest boy band look alike I have ever seen, changing the face of television and acceptance fifteen years ago could be the pavement that walks child sexual abuse right in.

In an article entitled, “Obama Turns His Back On Abused Children” written by Jacquelynn Kuhn and published by the Baltimore Sun, she reports “President Barack Obama’s recent decision to zero out funding for the Victims of Child Abuse (VOCA) Act in the fiscal 2013 budget shows profound disregard for America’s children. Since 1994, each U.S. president — no matter his political party — has appropriated money for VOCA every year.”

My intentions for writing this article were never to compare homosexuality and child sexual abuse. I have asked a valid question, is the support for same-sex marriage paving the way for child sexual abuse?

Dr. Ressurrection Graves is a Child Sexual Abuse Conference Speaker, and Pastor. She writes about child sexual abuse awareness, prevention and healing at: www.ressurrection.wordpress.com She is currently accepting both national and international speaking invitations on topics that include Spiritual and Child Sexual Abuse. Please join our petition: Make Child Sexual Abuse A Felony

About Ressurrection

Ressurrection Graves is a Child Sexual Abuse Grooming Expert and H.E.A.L.E.R. (Healer, Educator, Activist, Life Skills Expert, Empowerment Speaker, Relationship Mentor) Her website reaches readership in 188 countries. She is available for national speaking engagements, radio and television interviews. She can be reached at: 202.717.7377 or send your request to: ressurrection dot wordpress at yahoo dot com or comment on http://www.ressurrection.wordpress.com
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27 Responses to Barack Obama Supporting Same-Sex Marriage: Is It Paving The Way For Child Sexual Abuse To Become Accepted In Today’s Society?

  1. abbi1977 says:

    I’ve always enjoyed reading your posts, and normally find them quite enlightening. However, as a mom who breastfed to nearly 2 years, I have to admit I’m a bit offended by your statement that breastfeeding past 6 months makes me in some way an abusive parent or molester. Please, take a look at the World Health Organization guidelines before you say things like that. I can agree that this cover photo shoot was exploitative and maybe not the best choice, but this blanket statement is prejudicial and hurtful.

    • Whoa! I am definitely not saying that someone who breastfeeds past six months is a predator. I do not believe that I said that at all. However, I did say that I breastfed for six months.

      My original hope was to do it longer but I could not take the pain. I do apologize if you are offended. It is however my position that women have no reason to breast feed children who are attending school. In the article I did mention five year and eight year olds. I am uncomfortable with the age of this child who is three standing on a chair at a photo shoot as well. I do hope that you are able to receive my response. And thank you so much for reading my article, Blessings, Ressurrection

  2. Seth says:

    Well written & well thought out analysis, but I disagree when you say, “if homosexuality is acceptable so then, child sexual abuse, I believe that God created homosexuals and that they should have the equal right like all people to marry. Your reasoning is illogical when you conclude “if homosexuality is acceptable, so too then is child sexual abuse.” These are too clear and distinct things, one involving two adults in agreement, the other involving violation of a child. I consider myself to be a Christian, and child sexual abuse I would estimate is no more likely in a homosexual married household than a heterosexual one. We know it is no stranger to heterosexual households. I would be interested to see the scoentific studies on this. It would be ironic if it occurred actually less in homosexual homes.

    • Thank you so much for commenting. I think that you may be missing what I meant so I will explain it here. I am not alleging that homosexuals have anything to do with child sexual abuse. What I said was that according to Leviticus 18 which is written as the chapter on sexual morality, that both child sexual abuse and homosexuality are included biblically as immoral. Therefore, to say that homosexuality is acceptable may lead to others including child sexual abuse later. I disagree that God created homosexuals and there is no biblical text to support that. It does however say that we were born INTO sin, not that we were born WITH sin. I would have to teach this but please understand I do not discriminate or have any issue with people who choose homosexuality. HOWEVER, I do not believe that it is something people are born with. As a Christian we believe that homosexuality is an immoral choice no different from fornication or other sexual immorality. And, this piece was not written in judgment at all. I want to have this conversation. Thanks so much for commenting!!! :) Have a beautiful day.

  3. Clark Bunch says:

    I thought you might be interested in this: I get the Baptist Press newsletter in my email each morning. Their feature article today is about churches protecting their children from sexual abuse. Church Mutual Insurance Company has about 100,000 clients, mostly churches, and they get an average of 4 or 5 reports of sexual abuse EACH WEEK. Here’s the full story: http://www.bpnews.net/BPnews.asp?ID=37833

    This is off topic for the Obama story, but I hoped you wouldn’t mind.

  4. Kiki says:

    Why would something he says now pave the way for something that has been happening for hundreds of years? Closed-minded people would think so. Let’s state facts. The majority of sexual offenders are HETEROSEXUAL males. Even those that prey on little boys classify themselves as heterosexuals. So that stance is mute.

    What I do think his stance will do is to educate America that the world is changing. We as a people have to acclimate to this ever changing world. I wish people would stop using the Bible to oppress others. The oppressed have now become the oppressors.

    Like Al Sharpton said, “we can’t be picky with civil rights,”

    • Hello Kiki, Thank you for your response. I am not sure that you got the article. I have never said that homosexuals were predators, and I would never say that. It seems that you did not thoroughly read it. According to the bible homosexuality, bestiality, and child sexual abuse are all example of sexual immorality. I did not say that you don’t have a choice in being with who you want to be with, I just said that according to scripture it is sexually immoral. So, that point isn’t necessarily mute since I wasn’t making that point at all. As far as it paving the way, the question remains as to whether it will become an acceptable practice. I did not say that it hasn’t been happening for hundreds of years! And you said, “What I do think his (Barack Obama) stance will do is educate America that the world is changing.” If you believe that then the question that is actually pointed out in this article is accurate, not mute. Thank you for commenting. This is an important topic believe it or not. Oh, and this piece was written for open dialogue. I am not oppressed and I do not oppress. I am actually one of the most open minded thorough people that I know so I do find this statement unnecessary and offensive. Never once in this article did I give the impression that I would condemn anyone for their thoughts or beliefs. On the contrary I have presented a number of perspectives for us to have a calm discourse. Peace, Res

  5. Kiki says:

    The title of this article lead to my addressing who the majority of sexual predators are.

    And like you said it is an open topic. No need to get offended. I could have gotten offended by some of your comments, but I like to see where people’s ideas come from.

    You may not feel that you are oppressed personally. When I look at your picture, I see a black, full-figured woman. Those are three groups of people that have been oppressed. So hence my saying the oppressed have become the oppressors.

    I read the article over. Just to make sure I didn’t miss anything. The article comes across as judgemental. My own opinion.

    Talks about pastor’s indiscretions is just showing me what I already knew. My Bible says that ALL have sinned and come short of the glory of God. This is what guides me.

    Topics like this are damaging to some people. As an out lesbian, this article reminds me why it took me so long to come out. It also reminds me of why I hated myself for so long. But… I grew wiser. What MAN says doesn’t faze me at all. GOD is my only judge. Most of my family is in the ministry and they accept me for me.

    So although you say that most of us didn’t understand what you were saying, it came across the same way to more than one person. I actually never came across this page until a friend asked me to look at it. It disturbed her.

    I just ask one thing in closing. If I misconstrued what you meant in this article, in the words of Denzel Washington, “explain it to me like I’m a five year old” please :)

    • I am sorry that you were offended. I am sorry that you think I am oppressed. Not sure what to say. I presented something that was for deep thought and for all different sides to be represented. The title of the article asks if it is paving the way for child sexual abuse to be accepted. I may change it to exactly those words. If you would have simply clicked on other articles since I talk about child sexual abuse so often here (see the title of the blog), you would also see that NONE of my statistics ever say anything about homosexuality and child sexual abuse. I have never referred to them as one in the same or even given a statistic about it. I can’t please everyone! I do believe that I offered different sides for thought and that was the intention. This piece was not about right now, it was about the future. And let’s face it, anything is possible. Thank you again for reading. Peace.

  6. Tuan N'Gai says:

    Thanks so much for writing an article that addresses something that is often swept under the rug in black churches “sexual abuse”. I must say, as a minister and same gender loving man, I find the attempt to parallel homosexuality and child abuse a stretch at best. One truly has nothing to do with the other. And for a female pastor to stand on the side of discrimination is really hard to understand.

    To attempt to use the Bible to justify and LEGALIZE discrimination against any person is against the heart of GOD. I am a child of GOD as I am. GOD loves me and is pleased who He made me to be. I say if we are gonna do Bible, let’s really do it and make women property again. Let’s make interracial marriage illegal again. Let’s silence every woman who says she’s been called to preach or pastor. Let’s make it illegal for people to eat shellfish or pork. How about making it illegal to wear jewelry, braids, tattoos, or clothes made from two different fabrics? While we are at it, let’s make it illegal for men to shave!

    When looking at ancient texts without the benefit of appropriate scholarship and a heart open to GOD’s voice which is still speaking new things to humanity, we tread down a slippery slope where people are abused and can be destroyed in the name of a Holy GOD. I’m not asking you to agree with me sister, I’m saying let’s remember, even if you don’t agree with me, we both are minorities who live in a country where it is said that ALL HUMANS are created equal and should have equal rights and protections under the law. Despite what he says he believes, President Obama’s JOB is to protect and defend the constitution, NOT THE BIBLE. Please remember that.

    I love you with the love of Christ.

    • WHOA!!! I love how people come on my website and use my words to say what I did not say. I NEVER said that I discriminate against anyone. I have friends and family members who are gay/homosexual. I am a black, female, thick, woman and know very much what it is like to be discriminated against. I don’t understand how you said I used the bible to discriminate. I used the same text that you see in your bible to share ONE thought amongst many that were on the page. I quoted a woman who is a “queer” as she called herself in the article. I have presented several sides for everyone’s voice to be heard. I speak about child sexual abuse and that is why this article asks questions about it because whether you want to agree with me or not, the text mentions many things as sexually immoral acts. The title of this blog lead with a question.

      I see where you are going with the “Let’s make this illegal” paragraph but that is a much deeper conversation than this blog and platform were designed for. I appreciate you reading it. As for same-sex anything, I do have some thoughts on it, and quite honestly I did not share all of them here. Again, this was a platform for thought.

      I will continue to keep all of this in prayer.

      I will say this, a predator is the one who to said in writing that he believed that after homosexuality is fully accepted, child sexual abuse would be next. Then, after reading and studying some text, I asked myself the title of this blog, and then wrote this blog in a question format for those reading. It is not to be mistaken with discrimination. I honestly don’t see how this was misinterpreted as that.

      Love you too.

      Peace,

      Ressurrection

  7. Tuan N'Gai says:

    Thanks for clarifying that for me. I appreciate the dialogue.

  8. word4thesoul says:

    As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, I love what you stand for. With that being said, I think that your implying that marriage equality would pave the way for sexual child abuse is dangerous. It is dangerous because one of the biggest stereotypes around is that gay men want your little boys, (personally, my abuser was female). Our gay brothers have enough to deal with. They have racism in the gay community and heterosexism and homophobia in the black community. If we love them like we say we do, wouldn’t it be wise to not play into stereotypes that add to what they already deal with it?

    And two last things, that Time story was in the works prior to Obama’s statement and you might want to focus more on how the Time’s article was child abuse.

    • Hello! Thank you for this comment. To be honest, I am so happy that I posted this. I understand that the comments that are visible on this article are mostly negative but if you read them everyone is arguing or sharing different perspectives from there points of views, and that was the intention.

      I appreciate you reading my posts by the way. What I will say about this article is that people are reading what they want to. I NEVER said that homosexuality was the REASON for Child Sexual Abuse or that people who are homosexual ARE predators. I NEVER said that however everyone in their reading has come to that conclusion. If you read the post I ask the question if the FREEDOM from same-sex marriage will pave the way for the ACCEPTANCE of child sexual abuse. Historically, homosexuality was looked at with the same level of contempt at one time. In other comments, I informed others that this question came as a result of a statement made by a predator whose website I was reading years ago. This blog is a question. It is not even my opinion lol. I am sorry that people find it offensive but I encourage people to stop reading it to correct me, and understand that I wrote from various sides for us to think about it deeply. You said, “If we love them…” I love everybody and that is real talk. I do. I even love people that have hurt me deeply. This blog is not inflammatory or written to help others form an opinion, it is a question about the future based on events.My belief is that are coming to this blog with an already gathered opinion. I do speak of biblical perspective and Lev 18 however, it is one perspective! We don’t have to like to perspectives. Also, if you read my work, you know that I have never ever said anything about homosexuality and predators. In fact, in this blog I link a number of different blogs including the Bible and Child Sexual Abuse which offer statistics. For the record, I have never said, and I do not believe that men who are attracted to little boys are “gay.” Society says that but I have not because I understand that this is inaccurate. As far as the Time Magazine article, I know that it was in the works before Obama made his statement, I’m not sure where you are going with this. I simply thought that the timing was interesting. I am a person who believes that things aren’t always by coincidence. I plan to write a separate article about a few things in here. But I think that the key is for people read it without assuming that I have an opinion so that I am not the one attacked. I read a number of articles with various opinions and perspectives and I wanted to bring them all here for discussion. I love when people are bold enough to share their thoughts, whether we agree or not. I’m the type of person that I’d prefer for someone to be honest and say, “I don’t like you.” lol At least I know where they stand. So for the people who are commenting, although I think that some of the comments are generated toward me when it was intended to ignite a global conversation, I appreciate it, I do. I have also received private concerns and high-fives through email. We are all always learning and growing and loving. And congratulations on being a victor of child sexual abuse. It is powerful to heal and step into who you are called to be! Bless you, Res

      • word4thesoul says:

        Although you say that you haven’t stated your opinion, your opinion is seen. Your writing gives it away. For example:

        “I am not going to tell you that if you are homosexual that you are going to hell, what I will say however is that there are scriptures that speak specifically about sexual immorality and why would you want to do something that God hates? Why would you not want to please God? Of course, the challenge here is that not all believe homosexuality to be a sin.
        If you are a Christian believer, I would gather that you would believe the scriptures as it relates to homosexuality, and if you are a Christian homosexual teaching or living false doctrine then you must go to God and be honest about your lifestyle choice. At the end of the day, what you and God discuss when you see him on the other side is not something that anyone else can be accountable for. I always encourage my family to use wisdom, and make decisions that eternity can live with.”

        All of this is your opinion. You believe that being gay is a sin and you believe that homosexuality or normalizing being gay will make it easy for child sexual abuse to be accepted. That is your opinion. Embrace it. You wonder why others are coming at you upset? You are not being honest. We can clearly see what you are implying.

        • That is incorrect. Nothing that I mentioned biblically was my opinion. And, honestly I am no apologizing for this article. It was a question about predicting the future and whomever gets it gets it. I was quoting what is in the bible and it was not my opinion it is what was read. Instead of attacking me maybe you should have just asked what my opinion was on the matter. People are reading into this with their own judgment. I am not judging you personally, I presented sides. If you are offended I am not sure what to tell you but it was not for people to become offended it was for people to ask questions. If you don’t like this post, you will NOT like the one to come about Mitt Romney I assure you. I wish you well but understand that I do NOT argue about God. If you wanted to SHARE that is one thing but this is a bit more than was intended for this article. Lastly, I ASKED A QUESTION. Do not put words in my mouth. And as for honesty, please understand that you do not know me and I fear no man. I am and have always been an honest person but this article was not about ME. If it was, I would NOT have asked a question, I would have told you what I wanted you to hear – period. And you might surprised at my thoughts on the issue. #LETITGO

          Respectfully,

          Ressurrection

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