Child Grooming has always had an obvious definition to me, perhaps because I was a victim of child sexual abuse. Intrigued by the criminal mind of a sexual predator I begin to seek out information for my Ten Ways to Safeguard Your Child from Sexual Abuse book to teach parents, advocates and mandated reporters (other than law enforcement) what the grooming process is like.
I found advocates who reached an admirable amount of legislative success like Erin Merryn out of Chicago, and Adam Walsh’s parents who have the only anti-grooming law to date (which is not about anti-grooming at all, rather online predators and abduction.)
The deeper that I began searching for support services for child sexual abuse grooming, I would always dead-end at child sexual abuse. It seemed that child sexual abuse is a topic that is still considered taboo to talk about. I have been told that the subject matter is too heavy for most television shows to cover and that I am more likely to get a call back with talking about overcoming homelessness than child sexual abuse.
Child trafficking and prostitution are always talked about in the news, and other forms of media. I will provide explanation in my book about my theory that individuals within families and neighborhoods are not the only people who fear the perpetrator in your home, or living next door. I believe that to some extent lawmakers and clinicians have created programs and services, even laws around the fear of child sexual abuse, not aggressively pursuing the real problem. According to overwhelming statistics provided by these agencies, the real problem is within the close quarters that we are so uncomfortable confronting.
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In my new book, I am introducing why child sexual abuse grooming should become a felony, and the plan that should follow the legislation. I believe that someone is not seeing the obvious. If 90% of the population of victims of child sexual abuse know their perpetrators, why don’t we have something like the Center of Missing and Exploited Children for Child Sexual Abuse?
The Center for Missing and Exploited Children’s programs are under the umbrella of ‘child grooming’ and for no good reason. All of what we are talking about is heinous. What I am introducing is a solution to a problem. The problem is child sexual abuse grooming otherwise known as ‘child grooming’ (right now), is being grouped with child pornography (online predators), child prostitution and trafficking, which address abduction and the pimp process.
But who is going to talk about incest? Me. Who is going to establish a plan to end child sexual abuse grooming from babies to baby boomers? Me.
In this unprecedented book release, I will present a plan that will remove the group of child sex crimes from existing under one roof, give them their own separate voices and place a charge to law makers to make child sexual abuse grooming a felony.
The benefits of decentralizing all child sex crimes are:
- more specific research
- more accurate statistical data on the matter of child sexual abuse AND child sexual abuse grooming
- help clinicians, law makers, law enforcement and advocates create programs that help men, women and children overcome abuse
- reallocation of resources to the area most needed (the 90% of children sexually abused)
Last year in 2011, the Center for Disease Control released information stating that child sexual abuse costs this country $124 Billion dollars, yet we still do not have measures in place to charge perpetrators for the process that abuses children, in most cases?
Child Grooming is actions deliberately undertaken with the aim of befriending and establishing an emotional connection with a child to lower the child’s inhibitions in preparation for sexual activity with the child.
Essentially, Child Sexual Abuse Grooming. The add-on to that definition includes child prostitution/trafficking, child pornography (online predators).
Three reasons why child grooming should be redefined, and taken out of the group, given its own voice:
- Child Trafficking and Child prostitution does not have a grooming process. The purpose of children being trafficked is financial gain (for the perpetrator) not sexual gratification.
- Child pornography does not have a grooming process. The purpose of Child pornography online is to fulfill a sexual gratification through images (or in some cases video) the perpetrator who is watching is not the same as the perpetrator in the video. The “peeping perpetrator” is living vicariously through the other perpetrators experience. And, if on video, the perpetrator committing the acts, likely abducted the child for the purpose of sexual abuse. Heinous yes, child sexual abuse grooming no.
I will begin to expound on this more as the book is about to release. I want to be clear that I am not saying that one child sex crime is more important than the other. I am saying that I want to make sure that Child Sexual Abuse Grooming is able to be properly defined so that programs and anti-grooming laws can be established out of the correct information.
I am not creating this law from new information. I am relying on the evidence based information provided with over thirty-fifty years of study from clinical practitioners and law enforcement.
Please help Make Child Sexual Abuse Grooming A Felony.
Ressurrection Graves is a child sexual abuse grooming expert who has authored a petition to make it a felony. She writes, speaks and educates the masses on protecting children and healing as adults from past child sexual abuse.