21 Ways Rich People Think Differently

I read this last year and it helped to cultivate some things in me. Happy New Year. Blessings, Ressurrection

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Is Pedophilia a Sexual Orientation?

My palms began perspiring, my hips began to move uncomfortably and I was faced with a headline earlier today that made me feel like this was the end. Anticipating the second coming of Christ, I gasped and began to imagine what this heaven to earth in real-time would be like.

The headline read: Pedophilia Officially Classified as a Sexual Orientation. An article written by Charismanews.com reported that the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders also called the DSM – 5 had changed its definition of pedophilia. Reports later confirmed that the DSM – 5 was changed and I’m going to attempt to explain it in layman’s terms below:

Pedophilia has been considered a mental disorder much like homosexuality until 1973 when the ONLY reason it was changed to a sexual orientation was based on FALSE reports from Alfred Kinsey. To date, a lifestyle of homosexuality is considered sexual sin and of a reprobate mind from a Christian perspective. And, even scientists have been unable to confirm that homosexuality is something that people are born with, in fact most people just say it as comfortably as they say the sky is blue regardless of a lack of evidence both spiritually and scientifically. What they HAVE found is that most homosexuals confirm these “feelings” in middle school which happen to be the most vulnerable time in a child’s life, but I digress.

This was my cover photo at the time that the messages were sent on Facebook.

This was my cover photo at the time that the messages were sent on Facebook.

Charismanews.com came back and said that there was an alleged mistake in the DSM update on pedophilia although they waited to receive comment directly from the APA. Originally, through the American Psychiatric Association, the University of Southern California report indicated that

“the American Psychiatric Association (APA) drew a very distinct line between pedophilia and pedophilic disorder. Pedophilia refers to a sexual orientation or profession of sexual preference devoid of consummation, whereas pedophilic disorder is defined as a compulsion and is used in reference to individuals who act on their sexuality.”

And according to the Washington Times, the same quote from the change is as follows:

According to the DSM-5, pedophilia “refers to a sexual orientation or profession of sexual preference devoid of consummation, whereas pedophilic disorder is defined as a compulsion and is used in reference to individuals who act on their sexuality,”

In the APA’s statement to the Washington Times they said:

“‘sexual orientation’ is not a term used in the diagnostic criteria for pedophilic disorder and its use in the DSM-5 text discussion is an error and should read ‘sexual interest.’”

So, for those of us anti-pedophile advocates who do not have a PhD let me explain what they are saying. They DID change the definition of Pedophilia. They DID change pedophilia to a “sexual orientation” although they are now saying that it was an error and should read “sexual interest”. I disagree. This is too big of a debate and the APA is fully aware that pro-pedophile groups namingly pedophiles have been pushing for this change. I have written a ton of articles on this subject over the past few years and have clearly stated that it will change if no one stands up and says something to protect their children.

Now, the APA is saying that they will go back in, and change it to “sexual interest” but the change in separating pedophile from pedophilic disorder is going to stay the same? Essentially they are saying that a pedophile is one who has what pedophiles call, “Intergenerational Love”. They want to be called minor-attracted persons. The APA even referred to it as a “sexual orientation”.

They are saying that pedophilic disorder is the one who acts upon their interest because of their orientation. It’s the same as someone who says, “I’m a same-sex attracted person but because of my Christian beliefs I won’t act on them.” This person still has desire for the same-sex and has not sought deliverance. This too is a hugely debated topic that is not welcome on this particular post because it will take away from child sexual abuse and the idea that pedophilia has indeed officially been changed by definition.

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So, read the quotes from the APA again. All they have done is separated those who have what they are calling “interest” because of “orientation” from the ones who act on such interest. It is only a matter of time before they find that because of one’s “interest” and “orientation” they should not withhold the urge to rape a child. They will call it Intergenerational Love because after all they are just minor-attracted persons.

Make Child Sexual Abuse Grooming A Felony

I submit to you that this is you last real warning. It important that you DO and SAY something! Please sign our petition to Make Child Sexual Abuse Grooming A Felony and you should flood the APA’s office with phone calls and emails to inform them that the ENTIRE WORDING should be changed back. In other words, it is not enough to change “orientation” to “interest” because they lead to the same acceptance of sexual abuse of children.

Pedophilia altogether is a mental disorder, period. Those who are Christian understand that it is demonic, and I think anyone who isn’t a pedophile would agree that you do not want them to have the same rights as homosexuals, putting your children at risk. We do not need any less prosecution of sexual predators than we have now.

Ressurrection Graves writes and speaks on subjects surrounding child sexual abuse, justice, homelessness and poverty. She is the founder of Glory Soldiers Global a domestic and international missions organization assisting individuals and families in overcoming the effects of child sexual abuse including but not limited to homelessness and poverty.

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On The Greek word “pharmakia”

True Discernment


An update to this article (07/20/2022): “Depression ‘is NOT caused by low serotonin levels’: Study casts doubt over widespread use of potent drugs designed to treat chemical imbalance in brain…..Today’s landmark findings call into question society’s ever-growing reliance on antidepressants like Prozac”

The Greek word “pharmakia” literally means “drugs”, and appears five times in the New Testament: in Gal 5:20, Rev 9:21, 18:23, 21:8, and 22:15.  

“Pharmakia” is translated into our English Bible as either “witchcraft” or “sorceries”. We also get our English word “pharmacy” from the Greek word “pharmakia”.  

In each of the above five passages, “pharmakia”, or “drugs” is listed as a work of the flesh of man as opposed to the Spirit of God working in us.  

For example, Gal 5:16-23 in the KJV:

16 “[This] I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the…

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FBI Crime Victims Service Awards: Nominate Ressurrection Graves

Ressurrection is trailblazing past the victimization of her experiences into a victorious redemptive place that offers a liberty to be whole and to be extraordinary. That same liberation she wishes her neighbors on wordpress, her followers who are victims of child sexual abuse and other forms of sexual violence.

She maintains a blog on www.ressurrection.wordpress.com and the information that she provides is not redundant, blended professional language that is hard to understand. She has become a voice for her community often using her own personal growth within the sentimental touches of stories that are helping to heal a nation.

If you want to continue to support her work, and/or you have personally been able to raise your voice, and start your own blog, go back to your family to initiate restoration or begin your own journey to love you in any way, please share how you have been inspired and/or  gone from victim to victor by staying connected to her writing by clicking on the following link over at the FBI where they honor individuals and organizations making a difference.

On this last day of Child Sexual Abuse Awareness Month, continue to raise your voice.

Be heard, and Be whole

CLICK HERE to submit RESSURRECTION for nomination for 2014!

Thank you

A Journey to Love You Team


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Out with the Old, and In with the New – Website!

out with the old in with the new

Dear Readers,

It has been extraordinary to share with you as I journeyed to a greater level of healing from pains of the past. It is deep joy that I move forward on my journey to love. I’m taking the elevator to a new website with brand new products and services. I’ve been my case study, written stories for some of you, and gained amazing connections to people whom I would have never met without this platform.

200,000 views and readers in 188 countries later, I need to monetize my website to continue serving you. The new website will offer an option for you to sign up for emails, and it is a membership website. Please be sure to go, tell me what you think of the new website, and see if there are any services or products that you believe you’d benefit from. I’d love your reaction.

Additionally, I have separated my work as a business coach, author and entrepreneur, from my ministry/non-profit work which aims to end poverty and homelessness; child sexual abuse through prevention, intervention, and healing. The non-profit website when completed will be: http:/www.glorysoldiersglobal.org

Again, I am so grateful that I was able to use this as a platform to grow, and I am thankful that you chose to be alongside me for the journey. I’ve gleaned a lot from reading some of your stories and I vow to continue to support others as I move forward.

I will no longer post on this website. Please join us on our new website at: http://www.ressurrection.org

BE. Extraordinary,



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How do you handle your triggers?

Yesterday was a beautiful sunny day in Washington, DC. There was a lot of traffic I presume because people were anxious to enjoy it. Not humid that I remember at all, just really beautiful. My husband and I, who had a small, private ceremony last year are having our big to-do this year. Who gets married without a bridal shower? I mean, you want the prayers, wisdom and hopefully lingerie that these parties bring right?

In perfect fashion, we rented this place:


There were waterfalls in the front of the clubhouse, and a lot of space within the two rooms that we rented. There was only one problem: not everyone who promised to show up, did. And although there were over 20 people, we expected more like 50.

On this blog, I’ve written various types of articles to help adults who are overcoming affects of child sexual abuse. At first, this space was used for my own healing process. Now, I’m changing focus. I believe healing happens in two ways: miraculous and over time. I also believe that healing is not one total package. In other words someone with cancer may be miraculously healed of cancer, however they may need spiritual or emotional healing which may take time.

Similarly, I’ve found that there are different areas of us, which need healing and some of those areas have an instantaneous response to faith and the anointing, and some of those areas are healed as we apply faith and are open to revelation.


After yesterday’s very fun bridal-groom shower party thingy, I found myself holding back tears. Mostly because I’m not single anymore so, I can’t hide sadness. My husband has a different way of handling how people connected to him (who were supposed to show up) or who he may have wanted to come were absent.

Not only could I not hide the sadness from my husband, but my mother who is responsible for throwing such an awesome shindig for me and D, is staying over. Did I also mention my daughter who knows me inside out? I overheard her talking about me at a speaking engagement last week, and she told some of the audience members as they were taking us out to dinner that I was her best friend.

At 6:00am this morning, I woke up, still riddled by yesterday. My hubby’s fast asleep, this is a perfect time to cry. My mother however wakes up at 5:00am! Help Jesus. I loved yesterday. I adored that family members who I were not expecting not only showed up but contributed to the success of the day. I think I need to take my sister out to eat because she really was amazing yesterday and I’m so grateful.

ImageI hope that writing this article does not make people who came, gave gifts, participated in my very lively games and wished us well, feel that their love was not deeply empowering and warmly received. We love you!

Here is something I’ve been thinking about for a while. I don’t want a wedding reception. In fact, I don’t really want the wedding. But, I do want the vows. People are unreliable. They have made priorities and many times you are not included in them. In the times that we live in, people don’t cherish family as they once did, and keeping your word it seems is not an integrity issue. On the other hand, I understand that people can become distracted or change their mind at the last minute. We only planned this day one year and a half ago! People have known about it as an event for at least six months. But, I digress.

And then it hit me, like a ton of bricks I finally get it. I think it’s much easier for me to just do what God has called me to do because I expect no results from people. I never look for people to give me anything in exchange for doing something for them, because that is just who I am – you know?

But when I have a party or something that is personally important to me, and is not business or ministry, it hits me so incredibly hard when people do not come through. In this case, I’m expecting the best and the best case scenario is that people will show up. Some light bulb just went off and I realize that this is a trigger for me. Maybe it reminds me of my childhood and I just didn’t realize it until now.

Protecting myself from triggers that make me sad enough to write about it is important to me. D doesn’t ever have to have a party. He’s good with his wife, food, work, chill time (because all men need that) and helping the homeless.

In the spirit of my friend and maid of honor’s advice I want to truly celebrate how amazing the event was despite my surprise that more people whom I love did not make an appearance.

However, for my peace I have decided that if having a private event (remember I am not talking about business or ministry), is a trigger for me to be saddened or have an unusual level of disappointment (because those around me are either completely unaffected or trying to be happy because I’m not), then I need to do what is necessary to maintain emotional health.

People always say go out while on top right? I’d say that this is the event to do it with. If it needs an rsvp, I’m not having it. You see, my primary love language had a tie for quality time, and physical touch. This means I love love, to be around it, and feel it!

I promise you, I am not trying to be sad. I have a responsibility to myself to take care of areas that are unchecked. I genuinely love supporting others and doing what God has called me to do, in business and in ministry. These events are celebration enough.


D received some nice gifts yesterday mostly from his wife (me) and mother-in-law. We knew he would unlikely receive anything at all because is a man and the focus would be on me because of tradition. After opening his gifts he said, “We have to take care of you.” In other words, he was saying that it was my turn.

Please don’t get me wrong. I’d love some gifts. If I told you what I needed you’d be shocked. But of the Five Love Languages, 1 being primary, and 5 being least primary, gifts are number 5. I just wanted people to show up.


So, how do you handle your triggers? I don’t know that I’ve mastered the answer but I’m hoping that this experience will help you to identify any areas that you feel are unchecked triggers.

  1. Identify the source of your unhappiness
  2. Determine what experience you want to have
  3. Be honest about whether you control having this experience
  4. Do what you are able to, to bring you into total peace
  5. Release emotions that are associated with your saddness
  6. Return to Joy

In returning to joy you rejoice which literally means to have joy again. The bible says that the Joy of the Lord is your strength. Joy represents the power to overcome. I take authority today and overcome sadness with joy. I choose to think on things that reflect how God has been more than enough in my life, and how he has been my joy in times past. Joy is a spirit. Happiness is a fleeting emotion. When we access joy, we don’t have to feel joyful but it will rise up despite of the obvious indifference.

May you and yours experience the power to overcome today. Have Joy.

Ressurrection writes and speaks on subjects surrounding child sexual abuse, and homelessness. She is a healer and minister who offers pastoral counseling. Additionally she has started an organization with her husband entitled Glory Soldiers Global. She is available for speaking engagements, radio and television interviews.





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Worship Medley: The More I Seek You and Laid Down Lovers

This song speaks for itself. The term laid down lovers is used sort of as broken English in that, we as Christians lay down our lives for Christ, and we love him deeply (as in worship).


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Give Me You (Live) by Shana Wilson

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Should You Break Your Silence?

When I talk to people who contact me about breaking their silence, and telling their story I am always cautious to include that some people may not believe them. I also mention that it is quite possible that some people will actually fabricate their story to others whom they know, and do not know for their own gain. They will take something that rocked you to the core and use it as a pawn in an effort to discredit you.

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I usually take the time to warn people citing that it is possible for you to be challenged for coming forward, but the truth is, I never have had a personal experience where someone would try to do this to me, at least not that I’m aware of that is, until today. Unfortunately, that changed last night. I likely have the absolute worst in-laws in the history of them. They have lied on me from the very beginning. The good part of this is that my husband, my own family and friends have witnessed it first-hand.

I’ll spare you the details, indeed. But the worst of it came from the main instigator last night when I received a message addressed to me, in my husband’s inbox which read in part:

To resurrection you are a trifling bitch for someone who’s been raped several times by her family your father made you do all types of shit raped by a host of your brothers friends…

There is more to the message but by writing everything I will have to tell you the background story and that will deviate from the reason that I chose to write about this today. The only other thing I’ll add is that one of the people in the family said:

You are dead to me, and this family and as soon as (insert my husband’s name) wake’s up you’ll be dead to him too.

What an amazing welcome, don’t you think? I wrote a book about healing from child sexual abuse. I talked about my life after the abuse first happened at four years old, and the struggles that I had with faith and obeying discernment as a teenager. I subconsciously realize that being sexually abused as a child has led to my homelessness after closing a company and losing my home during the peak of the recession. When family relationships are unstable, becoming homeless only magnifies the turmoil that is current. While the family maintains their identity (good or bad), the homeless person is flooded with the reality of the family’s spiritual, emotional, psychological and sometimes physical lifestyle.

While there are many things that have happened to me in my life, a lot of them are not written in the book. However, I have never been raped by family. I have never been raped by my father, or my brother and I most certainly have not been gang raped or ever raped by my brother’s friends.

I believe that we all have some family dysfunction. As a result some people become a part of the generational dysfunction by being a successor of the curses that bind their family, and some learn coping skills that keep them from going crazy. For some family members, to dissociate and others are passive-aggressive, lukewarm to it which allows the people to be celebrated while they feel no conviction.

Spiritual and Emotional Abuse

When someone says that the abuse you experienced did not happen, or they lie on you repeatedly in an effort to put people against you, it feels like this, right?

People will talk about you. It is mythical to say that words do not hurt. We have authority to ensure that curse words do not take root, but to imply that words do not create, transform, build, break, make alive or kill is a part of the lie that we feed ourselves in order to cope with crisis.

When God delivered me from anger, he gave me communication. He gave me this as a strategy. There are few times when anger rises now like it has against his family. And it happens as a result of people who are intentionally evil, and likely being used (in a demonic sense) to attack me. When problems arise I like to talk them out, but people who intentionally lie, and disrespect you do not want to talk so there is often no resolution possible through communication.


If you are thinking of breaking your silence to a counselor bound by confidentiality, then you may avoid this altogether. However if by breaking your silence your spouse’s family will pass your book around, and use it as ammunition to talk about you and lie on you, it is important that you are prepared to handle those attacks without losing yourself.

Some people who have called me about the disadvantages of publicly breaking their silence are fearful that their own family will disown them. Sharing your story is a decision that you have to make, and it should not be weighed lightly. As we see under the comments sections of huge news sources, people will make fun of you they will discriminate against you and even hate you for the color of your skin. Sharing your story takes supernatural strength and I believe that you have to be in a place of wholeness where you can process your emotions before you embark on the journey.

It is also important to know that you deserve and should require healthy relationships around you. I encourage you to surround yourself with people who understand who and where you are, who see and support your vision, who celebrate your strengths and walk with you as you overcome your weaknesses. When you have a healthy relationship you know it, you can recognize it spot on because there are usually few close relationships that we encounter in this way. When someone loves you, they are completely invested. The calls are mutual, the desire to stay connected are mutual, and seeking quality time together is mutual for example. Love is not a yoke around your neck, it’s not something inconsistent or confusing, and it doesn’t seek to steal, kill or destroy you spiritually, mentally, or physically. May you turn in lies, for love.

Ressurrection writes on subjects surrounding homelessness, child sexual abuse, and relationships. She is a speaker, author and entrepreneur who can be reached for radio interviews at 202.717.7377 (RESS)


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Preaching Rocket: How Can We Preach Better Sermons?

I had an opportunity to listen in on a four-hour event entitled, “Preaching Better Sermons” online, hosted by Preaching Rocket, a company which provides a product for pastors who wish to improve their communication, preparation and sermon delivery skills.

Pastor of Lakewood Church, Joel Osteen

Pastor of Lakewood Church, Joel Osteen

I was a bit skeptical about how this series would be able to help me with entering pastorship. I find myself concerned about how to write a sermon, although professionally I am an author and speaker. I perceive being a pastor as something that is reverent and teaching the word is a calling that when answered must be understood as a lifestyle that requires intimacy with Christ.

A pastor especially has to make Jesus Christ their Lord, and I was concerned in signing up to watch this that some pastors would talk about their own selves and abilities. I was right. But there were a few who were absolutely anointed and on point in their communication of the word.

Paul said, “Don’t use impressive words it’s a form of manipulation. When we’re writing to manipulate an audience we are actually not involved with what God is doing.” – Donald Miller, Pastor

I believe that the world’s educational system is infiltrating the church. The bible does not require us to go to Seminary. Yet many believe that you are not qualified to be a pastor unless you have. There is extreme pressure to measure up to someone’s belief in you when, in truth our ability to preach/teach/dissect the word of God comes out of a direct intimacy established between you and God.


This can not be manufactured. Your “hook” is your ability. God can give you exact words. If he can give you ideas, he can give you words. The challenge with me becoming a pastor is understanding the balance between preparation and yielding to the holy spirit. If the message is crafted, I believe it is predictive programming.

Below are a few quotes I recorded:

Preaching is not a transactional gig. Preaching is a word from God for the people of God in the moment. – Crawford Loritts

Leader development and leadership development: Lead for something, it’s not a static place. You are not a leader because you master something. – Crawford Loritts

I thought that the above really helped to explain what I was speaking about as well. I don’t believe we should be manufacturing our own teaching points and saying that we’re merely “inspired” by God. If this is the case, we are no different from a college instructor or professor, and if that be the case, we need to make it a class and allow people to sign up for it. Allow God to be his total self, decreasing you so that he can be magnified is important.

Could your message work if Jesus didn’t get up?

The person who mentioned this (who I was so appalled I forgot to write his name), was trying to say that we should be able to reach people whether we talk about Jesus’s resurrection, dying on a cross, heaven or hell, etc.. I absolutely disagree with this approach. The only thing that makes us different is the fact that Jesus got up. What kind of sense does that make?

The entire premise for the Christian proclamation, “We serve a living God” is because Jesus sits on the right hand of the father. In other religions, their deities and idols were myths or mortal men who are now dead. It sounds like he is a life coach using biblical principles, but he does not sound like a pastor to me.

The concerns that I have are in fact what are proposed in this article. Many of the speakers eluded to the idea that we should somehow craft our messages to emotionally connect and maintain audience attention. God is a spirit, and if our central theme is to cast an emotional spell on people, then we are not living what we claim to believe – that Jesus Christ is Lord and that his manifested presence can and does invade us.

Again, there were a few pastors/speakers that I found said a few profound things but for the most part it sounded like professional speakers were aiming to put Christ into the message to get followers to do what they wanted them to do. I am totally uninterested in this form of “preaching” and it scares me because while they don’t want to acknowledge that there is a hell, I know that manipulating people from the pulpit is unconscionable and dangerous enough to lead even pastors to hell.

Being a pastor is a huge responsibility. And, I’m certainly praying for Godly wisdom. God does not need us to manipulate or coerce people emotionally into paying attention in church. Rather than feeding emotions, we are to teach the life that is to be led and walked out in the spirit.

Ressurrection is a writer on subjects around Christianity, child sexual abuse, and homelessness. She is also an author and speaker accepting a call to pastor. She is available for conference, television and radio interviews.

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Five Reasons Christians Support Same-Sex Marriage

We live in a time where many have reverted back to the elementary school playground, during recess time when you played Up-and-Over to see how fast you could jump over long, thick steel parallel bars that were planted on the ground, near the monkey bars.

The object of the game was for you to run and jump over the bars faster than your opponent, and tag the next person to do the same. The fastest team wins.

On the Playground

On the Playground

In that same playground, you had children who were without opinion, and had no real desire to lead, so they followed. You also had children who were boisterous and confident whether their opinion was going to lead others astray or not. A few of those little leaders became bullies when they left children no choice to have their own opposition against following their every command. The bully was the dictator, and if you are anything like me you were prepared to fight – willing to become the bully’s opponent to escape their dictatorship.

The subject of bullying is alive and well in adult societies all over the world. I remember when I was young it was taboo to disclose what your political party affiliation was, or who you voted for. Today it is taboo to disclose your affiliation with God. Prayer in school has been replaced by clubs, and teachers who instead promote politics and involve children in the political party process, even using student government to teach about how they should feel concerning agendas, without parental supervision. The question remains for many people, how do you live your life faithful to your beliefs as a Christian?

In the above video, the commentator spoke about Jason Collins’ announcement. I believe the “coming out” mantra is a part of the strategic plan for acceptance, a promotion of an agenda to for homosexual inclusion as a sexual orientation. In contrast, Christianity has been attacked and gay pastors have infiltrated the church only to spread the lie that conforming with save Christianity. Jesus Christ is the savior, not the other way around.

And, for many, the question has been abandoned and compromise has set in. The Five Reason Christians Support Same-Sex Marriage is written to start a conversation and to help those who are Christian to self-examine whether we are compromising who we are (because no one should do that), or if we are in fact acting out of our true beliefs.

#1: Fear

·         That you will alienate your friends who have a different belief system than you do.

There are many subjects that you and your friends may not have the same view on, and if this subject makes you lose friends you must question how self-sustaining your friendship was to begin with. If you believe that it will weaken your platform then you have to weigh whether it is a topic relevant to discuss or not, but you should never fear speaking about what your bible says.

It seems that we now live in a world where, like my playground analogy adults are bullied to keep silent if their views disagree with the promoted agenda. And, political bullies have began to use any tactic possible to alienate others who disagree with their positions regarding pieces of legislation.

The bible is clear that there is no fear in love. Hate and love are not the opposite of each other, that is actually something that the world teaches. Love and fear are actually opposites. God is NOT a co-existent being. This should answer the homophobia question. If you are around homosexuals, and you love them, you do not fear them, however you can still disagree with their lifestyle choice when you have to vote on it in the polls. Their lifestyle should not intimidate or quiet you no more than someone who is a fornicator.

I disagree with fornication, I believe it is sin. It does not mean that I have never fornicated however it just means that I understand from a biblical standpoint that it is considered sin, and not God’s desire or best for my life.

Lastly, when you allow yourself to be bullied or when you allow yourself to feel shame as a result of your review of your own sin, you make the debate about you. Same-sex marriage is not about you, what you did last night, your sins or anyone else’s sin for that matter. Same-sex marriage is unbiblical and marriage is a term that is spiritual only. There is nothing equal about same-sex marriage; nothing.

The moment you realize that you can put your confidence in God, you can stand on his word, and you can believe something without the approval of others, you will be able to use your voice with love, and vote in the direction that may empower others to do the same.

Rodney King says, “Can’t we all just get along?” I say, “Can we be mature enough to disagree?” This is not about you! God is the one who said that same-sex marriage is unbiblical and that homosexuality is sin not you, so why are you allowing others to burden you with this bullying tactic? Remove yourself, and stand for God.

#2. Misconceptions about Christian Voting Rights

  •          I’m supposed to keep the bible and the polls separate.

Who told you that? If you are a Christian which simply means a follower of Christ, and you believe what he says then you understand that YOU are the church, and that the separation of church and state has been diluted and misrepresented by people who do not want you to vote based on your beliefs. It is really important that you choose to ask God who you should vote for, and what you should believe about certain matters. He will tell you, and it will not be contrary to himself.

  •        What I personally believe has no relevant impact on someone else

If this is true then why do we need to vote in the first place because this would mean that what someone else personally believes has no relevant impact on you! And, what someone else believes does have an impact on you. For example, my fight is to ensure that pedophilia is not legalized. There are a group of PhD professionals, some pedophiles, who believe that sex with children should be legalized, and that pedophiles are harmless so they should be able to foster children, adopt and teach them in schools.

As far as same-sex marriage (not homosexuality), the impact is great for the definition and foundation of marriage which is founded on biblical principles. Marriage does only mean a man and a woman – period. There are groups aiming to abolish marriage altogether. So, the plan is the vote to legalize same-sex marriage and then put another bill on the table to abolish the definition, structure and marriage recognition altogether.

Here is what Masha Gessen had to say about it:

“It’s a no-brainer that (homosexual activists) should have the right to marry, but I also think equally that it’s a no-brainer that the institution of marriage should not exist. …(F)ighting for gay marriage generally involves lying about what we are going to do with marriage when we get there — because we lie that the institution of marriage is not going to change, and that is a lie.

The institution of marriage is going to change, and it should change. And again, I don’t think it should exist. And I don’t like taking part in creating fictions about my life. That’s sort of not what I had in mind when I came out thirty years ago.

I have three kids who have five parents, more or less, and I don’t see why they shouldn’t have five parents legally… I met my new partner, and she had just had a baby, and that baby’s biological father is my brother, and my daughter’s biological father is a man who lives in Russia, and my adopted son also considers him his father. So the five parents break down into two groups of three… And really, I would like to live in a legal system that is capable of reflecting that reality, and I don’t think that’s compatible with the institution of marriage.”

(Source: http://www.abc.net.au/radionational/programs/lifematters/why-get-married/4058506)

Day One Woman: An Original Painting By An African-American Artist; My favorite Painting.

Day One Woman: An Original Painting By An African-American Artist; My favorite Painting.

Marriage will always remain a spiritual covenant however, the message has become so diluted by the fight to end marriage and create a free sex society where everything goes, including but not limited to fornication, child sexual abuse, incest, polygamy, bestiality and pedophilia.

#3. No Doctrinal Understanding

Doctrine is a system of beliefs. When you say that you are a Christian, you are not necessarily saying what you believe. Christianity is viewed as an organized religion but someone who is a “follower of Christ”, which is the definition of Christian, understands that a relationship must be established.

In this relationship you began to study Him, just like you study your own friends or family members. You know what they like or dislike. Your spouse is the best example of this kind of relationship because of the intimacy that is presented. I could teach on this all day but to keep this segment short think of it this way:

Mormons (who call themselves Christians) believe that GOD came down from heaven and had literal sex with Mary who was about 12 years old, and impregnated her with his super-sperm to make Jesus. Catholics (who call themselves Christians) don’t even pray to Jesus, they pray to Mary.

According to an article on this website concerning a rally in support of Same Sex Marriage recently:

But one group that wasn’t there in any official capacity was the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints—a.k.a. the Mormons—which perhaps more than any other religious group was responsible for getting Prop. 8 passed in the first place. In the five years since the LDS church sent busloads of the faithful to California to canvass neighborhoods, and contributed more than $20 million via its members to support the initiative, it has all but dropped the rope in the public policy tug of war over marriage equality.

“It seems like the [Mormon] hierarchy has pulled the plug and is no longer taking the lead in the fight to stop same-sex marriage,” says Fred Karger, the LGBT activist who first exposed the church’s major role in the passage of Prop. 8. “The Mormon Church has lost so many members and suffered such a black eye because of all its anti-gay activities that they really had no choice. I am hopeful that the Catholic Church cannot be far behind.”

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It is not enough to claim that you are a Christian because your other option is Satan. The truth is, many people I believe claim affiliation to Christianity even if they have no evidence of his presence in their life because they are clear that they believe in a GOD as opposed to Satan, but they won’t take the time to learn who God is, how he functions and his doctrine so that they can align themselves with his heart, and his will.

In other words, their natural choice is God, but it has not become a spiritual recognition; no salvation. In other cases, a person is saved meaning that they have accepted Jesus Christ as their savior, but they have not made him Lord, and do not have any understanding of their identity in Christ, because they don’t know the identity of God.

Do you remember the WWJD wristbands, key necklaces, and all the other marketing materials that went viral to make people think twice before they sinned? Unsaved people were wearing these bracelets as a gesture to think twice about being kind but the truth is, many people saved and unsaved asked a question that they never went to the word to find the answer to. So, this question became a trend, a joke many times during stories where someone was about to fight or at least felt like fighting – but from this question they never learned how to handle anger, or how to resolve personal conflicts.

A lack of doctrinal knowledge is also why pastors are able to successfully misuse their authority, and why atheists can misinterpret the bible and convince you that it is flawed or somehow unreliable. Here is a secret: When you learn to identify God’s voice, your voice, and the voice of the Enemy, you will stand firm in how you live your life, and how to apply what you believe in confidence.

#4: Acceptance

Everyone has a desire to be accepted in their failures, their successes and for their own personal convictions. As much as Satan teaches that people should do what they want, or “Do what thou wilt” as the motto for the Satanic religious text Thelema boasts, the majority of people still want to be accepted even in their rebellion. The truth is, doing what you want does not guarantee that you’ll be satisfied with yourself or how others choose to treat or “accept” you.

I took the liberty to look up the word “Acceptance” and I found some enlightening definitions that describe what we do when we accept Same-sex Marriage or some other issue that is unbiblical and threatens our spiritual observations in this country.

According to various websites acceptance means:

  •        Your belief in something or agreement
  •       The process of approving something
  •       Agreeing to terms and conditions

By definition acceptant means that you are receiving willingly, being receptive and accepting something wholly. The synonym for this word is but not limited to: adequate

In an effort once again, (because this was mentioned earlier) to accept same-sex marriage as a normalized expression of love, and natural progression of one’s committed relationship with their same-sex partner, you are making your fears about the consequences for not accepting this infiltration your priority, thereby making the focus more about you than God.

You did not choose to make homosexuality or same-sex marriage an abomination (which is something that God hates) or sin. You did not create the heavens and the earth and the weight of same-sex marriage is not on your shoulder, so I encourage you, to stop bullying yourself into acceptance because of fear that there will be unrest.

It is not discrimination or a hate crime to say that you believe that same-sex marriage is a sin. It is not uncommon for you to be called homophobic or other names because of your views, if anything accept that and continue to be love.

People who are homosexual, but know your heart will have to understand that you all can maturely disagree and still love one another in whatever capacity you find your connection (family, friend etc).

I defined acceptance so that you would understand how God views your silence. Indecision is a decision, silence speaks louder than words in many cases, and your acceptance promotes sin. We live in a time where the world wants to convince you that sin does not exist. Will you accept this because it makes you feel alone, or will you accept that you were born to walk as a supernatural being who is supposed to do greater works than Jesus, and that you are set aside for such works? You are alone sometimes, but when you are confident, fulfilled, walking in and conscious of your purpose you do not feel lonely.

5. Secret Sin

You struggle with sin of some kind, even a form of sexual perversion as identified in Leviticus 18, which may include same-sex attractions or fornication and you feel that you’re a hypocrite for enforcing something that you are unable to follow.

Pornography is a sin that causes impotence, and many pastors have run after the call on their lives abandoning their duties as husbands first to be pastors. They end up far from God without meaning to do so, and instead of choosing the hard thing which is to sit down, they continue walking in their sin but preaching to the choir. Well, the spirit flows from the head down and the secret sins of the pastor I have found seem to seep into the four walls of his sheep; into his ministry.

The above is an example. It is hard to preach about something that you have not overcome. Before I began to talk about healing from child sexual abuse, and the feelings of abandonment and lack of love I feel from my siblings, I had to confront them, offer an opportunity for us to heal and find a place where we were able to establish healthy connections or peacefully and permanently disconnect.

Perhaps you are struggling with same-sex attractions. You feel that the spirit of sexual perversion has been trying to overtake you. As a believer, you should know that God can absolutely deliver you, and heal you from those thoughts. It is important that you cast down imaginations, no matter what your secret sin.

I called these “secret sins” because that is how you feel about your sin but it’s not a secret because truthfully it is no one’s business but your own, unless you continue to walk in your sin and serve in a leadership role that can affect others. God will often protect you, because he loves you but eventually you will be exposed if you decide not to repent and turn away from the sin.

I want you to understand that your secret sin does not change God’s view of same-sex marriage. It is important that we all live a repented life. It is important if you’re serious about living for God to get out of environments that promote the hype of Christianity, and that we began to demand what is holy. The only way to demand that is to seek God for leadership who will not conform for media and marketing opportunities.

I do not care if I ever have a mega church. It’s not an aspiration but I will tell you this, you’ll get the same God-given message in the middle of Africa where we meet in the middle of the jungle or in my living room. God does not change, but we should. His word should become alive when we read it, and alive in us when we take it in.

There is a difference between a socio-political view,  and a scriptural-spiritual view but somehow with all the information addictions through media and social network platforms which serve as news sources, people are disconnecting from their spiritual gifts including discernment, knowledge and wisdom.

In conclusion, the purpose of this article is to empower Christians to stop comparing themselves to the word to qualify you as a spokesperson. If you believe that Jesus died on the cross for your sins, your faith qualifies you. While Jesus discourages arguments over him, and we are mandated to love, we are given permission to hate sin. We can also speak firmly, with confidence and say that same-sex marriage is a bill that attempts to redefine a biblical covenant.

The other purpose of this article is to clarify that while I do not believe in gay conversion therapy, I do believe that God is an absolute healer. When you receive Jesus as your Lord and Savior understanding that he died on the cross for your healing and the bible says that by His stripes we were healed, it is already sealed. The main ingredient to your manifestation is faith. Homosexuality then is a lifestyle of open rebellion, by individuals who possess a reprobate mind. Homosexuality cannot be compared to cursing or other sins that people turn away from through repentance because one who is openly homosexual believes that they have a right to be whatever they want. This is the teaching of Thelema, and not the bible.

Additionally, I have a lot of acquaintances, family, and connections who are homosexual. My allegiance to my core biblical views do not in any way prohibit me from loving you, no more than having a friend that I disagree with on a separate subject matter unrelated to homosexuality.

I aim to tone down the bullying, increase the confidence of Christian people, and create an atmosphere where people are able to stand firm on their beliefs without personal attacks and criticisms.

Here is a scholarly article about the “Gay Gene”. It is a theological perspective.

Ressurrection writes on subjects surrounding homelessness, and sexual perversion including child sexual abuse. She is available for radio, television and speaking engagements by contacting her office at: 202.717.7377 (RESS)

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Ressurrection: Speaking at the National Press Club

Yesterday, I sent out an email inviting friends, colleagues, and social media followers to suggest me as a speaker for the National Press Club. Several people responded stating that I was suggested by them including a Phd Child Sexual Abuse Expert who supports my petition to Make Child Sexual Abuse Grooming a Felony.

One person who suggested me as a speaker sent me the following message today:

Hello. I contacted the NPC on your behalf this morning and received the following response a few minutes ago. I requested their reason for declining but am awaiting Donna’s response.

And here is the declining email:

From: “Leinwand, Donna” <removed email address> To: “removed name and email address” Sent: Tuesday, April 23, 2013 6:56 PM Subject: Resurrection Graves

Dear Ms. (removed name), Thank you for your interest in the National Press Club’s Speaker Series. At this time, we’ll have to decline your suggestion of Ms. Resurrection Graves.

Very best wishes,

Donna Leinwand Leger

Vice Chairwoman, Speakers Committee National Press Club Donna Leinwand Leger Reporter USA TODAY (I have removed her direct contact information – because I am a nice person!)

Here is the email which offered a response for why the opportunity for me to speak for the National Press Club was declined:

The speaker is not sufficiently well-known nor is the topic of unusual news value to have an unknown speaker. If you look at our list of recent speakers, you’ll see that the threshold is quite high.

Mariska Hargitay, the star of Law and Order: SVU, recently spoke on sexual abuse. Other notable speakers in the last few months are Defense Secretary Leon Panetta, Postmaster General Pat Donahoe, Drug Tzar Gil Kerlikowske, Iceland’s President Olafur Grimsson and BET CEO Robert Johnson.

Upcoming speakers include tennis great Chris Evert and astronaut Buzz Aldrin.

I would like to thank everyone who has already suggested me as a speaker with the National Press Club. While I appreciate the response, I also understand that we live in a society who often is motivated by popularity contests, and not newsworthy causes independent of an established presence.

Child Sexual Abuse is a common topic but my petition is one that has never been drafted before in an effort to prosecute premeditated child sexual abuse. I am also working to create a national clearinghouse for child sexual abuse victims, another feature of the petition which has never been done before. I have found numerous stories reported by journalists who are promoting the pro-pedophile movement. This is important, and I consider it an honor that you would suggest me to speak.

Additionally, providing a platform for the petition creates a national and international conversation that would be both newsworthy and necessary for moving the petition forward so that we can obtain an official bill number by an approving legislator, and ultimately law.

In response to the decline, and her request that I become more well-known I would recommend that everyone who reads this, click here and suggest me as a speaker. You can be sure to mention that I am a current speaker full-time, and that I have written a memoir.

You can also mention that I have created the petition “Make Child Sexual Abuse Grooming A Felony” and direct them here, so that they can view the petition for themselves, and sign if they agree. I am working on my next book that will feature in-depth information about the child sexual abuse grooming law that I propose.

Thank you for your continued support.



Here is Mariska Hargitay’s presentation at the National Press Club 3-13-2013


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How Can You Define Premeditated Child Sexual Abuse?

We are in the middle of April, which is National Child Abuse Prevention Month in the United States of America. However, depending on your cause as it relates to child abuse, you will notice that some people call it, National Child Sexual Assault Awareness Month or some other variation.

Please sign the petition and write your legislators

Please sign the petition and write your legislators

My work is specific to child sexual abuse grooming so we use this month to advocate for victims, and offer support to those healing from abuse using various campaigns.

Today, I received a comment on my Facebook page responding to my status which said that people should not post naked pictures of their children on Facebook. The commenter responded, sounding as if to correct me with this statement:

Pedophiles can use all kinds of shots of the kids- at the beach, lounging around the house, and they also like pics of kids eating things. Some have nothing better to do than mine random pages for the one or two usable images, which can add up to thousands of perfectly legal photos.

In response to her I said in part:

You have absolutely proved my point that the naked baby picture should not be made available to be downloaded by perpetrators.

The person whose profile picture was a cartoon and who was not identifiable on their page also sent an inbox message which said this:

Dear Ms. Graves, While I support in general your work to protect children, I have looked everywhere and I cannot find where you define child sexual abuse grooming. I understand that joining a church, befriending a child of a struggling single parent, going camping, and doing special things together which includes having secrets might any or all be CSAG, but it isn’t necessarily so, nor should any of that be criminalized. IF it results in CSA, the abuse is the crime. It seems this is a tricky area which might get some support because of peoples’ prejudices, but is not sound law. I know your motives are good. You have avoided the main issue- criminalizing normal behavior. Thank you for reading this feedback.

I will respond to the hidden person behind the cartoon profile picture here in an effort to correct her statements, and answer any questions that others may have as well.

  1. I define child sexual abuse grooming in general everywhere! I have provided a full definition in my upcoming book. If you want the general definition it is “child grooming” minus the other forms of child sexual abuse which currently sit under the definition which include child trafficking, abduction, and online pornography, for example.
  2. It is impossible that you did any kind of formal search. I am on video talking about child sexual abuse grooming, I have created/coined and introduced the entire phrase and have written many blog articles on the subject. When you google child sexual abuse grooming or premeditated child sexual abuse, my articles come up in search engines.
  3. If you can make a list of actions that YOU identify as child sexual abuse grooming, it makes no sense that you can say that it is not criminal. You clearly identify that you understand that child sexual abuse grooming is real. However, you have not done ANY homework on grooming. Grooming is a process, an escalation of events and some of your description which you identified as CSAG behaviors are often only one part of what happens during the grooming process.
  4. You say that Child Sexual Abuse Grooming is not nor should it be a crime, but would you say that of premeditated murder? Premeditated Child Sexual Abuse is not different in that the perpetrator is aware that he is drawing confusion, manipulating the victim child, and often the adults around them with the sole intent to abuse.
  5. The fact that you can say that “It seems this is a tricky area which might get some support because of peoples’ prejudices, but is not sound law,” makes me think that you are a pedophile and your lack of profile identification only add to the suspicion. I don’t understand what you mean by someone being prejudice about not wanting to have their children taught or connected to in any way, a pedophile. I also do not understand how you can say that premeditated child sexual abuse grooming is not “sound law” when in the beginning of the article you said you could not find what the definition of child sexual abuse grooming is, in the first place. Lastly, “sound law” is your word, and while is sounds educated, it’s like saying that premeditated murder is not “sound law”. The people make the laws, and when we sit down to craft this one, I will ensure that innocent people are not prosecuted for grooming behaviors.
  6. Many adults who were sexually abused as children have made very clear that much of the psychological problems stem from both the physical sexual abuse, and the child sexual abuse grooming which sought to intentionally silence, scare, manipulate, confuse and otherwise harm them.
  7. I know my motives are good, and I have not avoided the main issue, you have failed to do your homework. If you type into your google search engine, or any search engine for that matter, Make Child Sexual Abuse Grooming A Felony, the petition surfaces. Your message and comments were posted on my Facebook page where many articles, definitions, topics, explanations, links and even a copy of the petition in the “NOTES” section are posted. With all due respect, you haven’t look for anything.
This was my cover photo at the time that the messages were sent on Facebook.

This was my cover photo at the time that the messages were sent on Facebook.

Thank you for reading this feedback.

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Ressurrection Graves is a child sexual abuse grooming expert who has authored a petition to make it a felony. She writes, speaks and educates the masses on protecting children and healing as adults from past child sexual abuse.

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Dr. David Finkelhor: A Pedophile’s Advocate

Dr. David Finkelhor is an American Sociologist who is somewhat known as the go-to guy for child sexual abuse research. After watching his presentation at the Penn State Child Sexual Abuse Conference, I was really taken back by some of the things that he said and as some of my suspicions were confirmed, he is a part of this pro-pedophile agenda who seeks to legalize sex with children.

Borrowed from Confessions of a Trauma Therapist

Borrowed from Confessions of a Trauma Therapist

He was slated as the keynote speaker for a child sexual abuse conference at John Hopkins University headed by Dr. Ed Berlin who also supports B4U-Act, a pro-pedophile organization seeking to legalize sex with children. After Dr. Benjamin Carson’s comments about homosexuality, pedophilia and bestiality, the conference was mysteriously cancelled.

In the last article called,  Dr. David Finkelhor: Respected Phd Researcher or Pedophile Pamphleteer? I mentioned some of the things that were mentioned at the conference. In this article, I wanted to offer a space where I could address a particular statement that he made which I believe will work against my grooming legislation if people do not understand how inaccurate his statements were. His statement was very long so I will insert my responses within the text.

At 42:35 in his presentation he says the following:

There are a lot of child molesters who should not be described as predatory. Now, you’ll say – now-but-you-know, they’re committing a crime; they’re exploiting children. Yes, that’s predatory, yes, that’s true but what I mean as predatory is somebody who comes into relationship with a child, or comes in  proximity to the child with the goal of committing a sexual act with that child.

Crime cases involving internet offenders who view and/or download child pornography are also engaging in child molestation or diagnosed pedophilia. In many cases, these sexual offenders are trading images and home videos. In order to make a home video of child pornography, you’d have to have a child to sexually abuse. I have never heard of an instance where a child molester is rehabilitated.

In fact, research is clear that pedophilia has no cure, which explains why there is a push to normalize it like homosexuality. Sexual predators can groom children without touch. This means that you don’t know the intentions of a sexual predator, and cannot by any means confirm that someone who is in proximity with a child, will not groom them for sexual abuse.

I believe that all child molesters and pedophiles are predatory and are incapable of developing healthy relationships with children that do not groom them, any differently than a crackhead with a crack pipe. You would not encourage a person who has a narcotics problem to work in a pharmacy or as a drug dealer.

I think a dominant paradigm that we have is that all child molesters are out there kind of circling like – uh- birds of prey and trying to find niches where they can insinuate themselves into youth-serving organizations or families, and get access to children, that certainly happens and it is one of the most insidious dynamics,

As you said, that certainly happens….

but there are a large number of offenders who I believe (and I wish we had better research on this but I think the dynamics are clear)  who get-who are in contact with kids for completely benign and positive reasons because they like being mentors, they like coaching sports, they like teaching, they like hanging out with their nieces and nephews, they like babysitting

So because of what the pedophile or child molester likes, we should put children around them? There is no way for you to know that a predators intentions are benign. There end goal is to satisfy themselves and they use grooming as a way to silence victims, including adults where they have successfully infiltrated and gained trust – similarly how you hold the position that you, but you promote that pedophilia is a sexual orientation and should be legalized, with the guise of protecting children.

but then because of a relationship that develops,because of some special closeness that happens, because of some opportunities that arise, these adults suddenly recognize,  feel some sexual interest.

A romantic relationship? What kind of relationship develops where a child can feel such a special closeness to an adult that opportunities arise where the adult suddenly has some sexual interest? Explain to me how a child who looks to an adult for leadership, guidance, and mentorship through school, extracurricular sporting activities, or some other kind of youth-serving environment could be viewed with sexual interest from said adult? No! You just told the world that grooming children for sexual abuse happens naturally and is okay.

Maybe this child has a crush on them, maybe this adult really realizes that this child has special qualities, and something kind of awakens; it could be a problem in the adult’s life and they then turn that relationship into a sexual relationship.

It appears that you are victim blaming. How do you blame a child for the actions of pedophiles and child molesters? I remember being a child who had a crush on an adult. I remember adults taking sexual interest in me but because I had been violated before the familiarity made me think there was something special about me, and not that the adult was a pervert. Perhaps I came to this assumption because of my undeveloped brain, as a child. A child having a crush on an adult does not green light sexual activity.

Additionally, what problem in the adult’s life? The adult who is lonely or has a failing marriage doesn’t look to a child for affection and sexual relationship. In an attempt to condone behaviors you are not referring to child molesters, or pedophiles in this presentation but as “adult” where you see fit.

An “adult” who is not a pedophile or child molester would not think that because a child has a “crush” or because of something special about the child they become “minor-attracted” as you want to be called, that having a sexual relationship with a child is the resolution to a child having a crush.

This is sick and misleading to try to explain away pedophilia. A child can not consent and an adult having sex with a child is not a relationship, it is called rape.

And I think, and I don’t and I – I – I – prefer to not call that predatory, and I think it has very important implications for prevention (that I’ll come back to) but I think that we have to recognize that that dynamic occurs.

I’m sorry what? You prefer not to call child sexual abuse grooming predatory? But, you agree that it happens?

The fact that not all offenders are pedophiles and have a recognizable and are aware of a sexual interest in children and the fact that they join organizations without having an intent to sexually abuse,

All offenders are offenders, period. If someone has a sexual interest in children they should not be in any proximity of children who they could groom for years (because it is not an instantaneous process), and eventually physically offend. Grooming is a part of offending. In many cases the years of emotional, spiritual even psychological abuse that is used during the grooming process it what makes the physical sexual abuse unbearable to overcome.

I think that this means we can not simply identify these individuals who are going to be at risk for children on the basis of their interest, on the basis of some sexual orientation, on the basis of some test of their sexual proclivities,

This makes no sense at all. You are seeking to normalize the idea that pedophilia is a sexual orientation which would remove rights of parents to self-select their child’s teachers, and charge parents with discrimination if they would speak out about their concerns. You are telling people that these child molesters and pedophiles not “individuals” who put children at risk should not be judged by being a child molester or pedophile?

using polygraphy to find out if they’re lying about whether they’re interested in children on motives that they express about why they want to do whatever they want to do (or any kind of screening) it’s a much more complicated problem I think than any predatory model would suggest.

I agree that people who are not convicted of crimes should not be forced to take polygraphs because a law like that could actually do more harm than good when companies decide how they will use the law to their advantage.

I also know that child molesters and pedophiles don’t always lie about it. Many child molesters and pedophiles feel like you, that their sexual orientation should be accepted and that legalizing sex with children will give them the freedom they need to be themselves – without any thought to the overwhelming evidence of how children are affected by child sexual abuse.

  • 80% of adults suffering from mental illness were sexually abused as a child
  • 80% of adults suffering from narcotics and/or alcoholism were sexually abused as a child
  • 75% of prostitutes were sexually abused
  • 97% of homeless mothers have been sexually abused and/or raped

Child Molesters and Pedophiles are higher educated and have better social skills than the typical criminal population, Dr. Finkelhor says. However, if victims of child sexual abuse come from all races, and economic backgrounds we need to be clear not to equate higher educated and better social skills with the idea that there is a target group of child molesters and pedophiles within a specific race or economic community.

What we can do however is understand that the stereotypes about child molesters and pedophiles which would give us the impression that they are social awkward, violent, and emotionally unavailable (to children) are not correct. This also means that we can further understand how this movement has gained momentum.

There are a group of doctors, lawyers, and other professionals who are in the pedophile community who have chosen to explain away the abuse intellectually in order to gain traction in legalizing it. But the effects of its victims exist, and my hope is that you (who are reading this) take this very serious, and support my mission to Make Child Sexual Abuse Grooming A Felony. Click here to sign.

Make Child Sexual Abuse Grooming A Felony

What people do not understand is that education has been put in place of a deeply rooted relationship with God. Science to many, is God as it requires no faith, and only humanity to believe in. I inform my child to lead with the spiritual part of her being. This is why we are urged to walk in the spirit. I am Christian.

You may not be, but understand that we do not know what is being taught in classrooms across this nation. In many of them social workers, psychologists in training are being taught to agree with the pro-pedophile movement. They are taught the belief systems of satanists and are not told of many of the evils that have been done by someone who they commit to idolize.

Education is important but it should not ever replace your spiritual foundation as we should always be rooted and grounded in God. With such intimacy, it will be easy to spot imbalances within the system and challenge teachings that promote agendas that will hurt others, like the strategic plan to legalize sex with children.

Can you believe this man is promoting child sexual abuse grooming?

Ressurrection Graves is a child sexual abuse grooming expert who has authored a petition to make it a felony. She writes, speaks and educates the masses on protecting children and healing as adults from past child sexual abuse.

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Dr. David Finkelhor: Respected PhD Researcher or Pedophile Pamphleteer?

Dr. David S. Finkelhor is an American sociologist known for his research into child sexual abuse and related topics. He is the director of Crimes against Children Research Center, Co-Director of the Family Research Laboratory and Professor of Sociology at the University of New Hampshire in the United States.

Finkelhor remains a fixture in his position to report child sexual abuse politics to our government. Neither Democrat or Republican incumbents have appointed new authorities in the area of child sexual abuse research in many terms says one child sexual abuse PhD specialist I spoke with recently.

And when I do research on him, I find two positions: One that makes sense which appears to defend children, and the other which advocates for pedophiles to be legally able to be around children. On one hand he identifies that grooming exists and on the other he believes that positioning children to be victimized should be permissible.

In an article, turned book called, Intergenerational Intimacy Historical, Socio-Pyschological and Legal Perspective, Finkelhor says:

Epidemiological studies show that adult-child sexual contact is a predictor of later depression, suicidal behavior, dissociative disorders, alcohol and drug abuse, and sexual problems even when other noxious background factors are controlled for.

The public policy priority to protect children from unwanted and coercive sexual approaches by adults seems justified given the evidence of its wide prevalence and the high risk for serious effects. The (now grown) children who have had such experiences are very active in lobbying for such protection.

One of the arguments that pedophiles use is that child sexual abuse is a misnomer in cases where the child has complied, and/or physical force and violence are not used. They often say that the child has flirted with or pursued them, and that any “relationship” that comes after is one that is mutual offering no explanation to their adult responsibility to lead, train or guide a child in appropriate behaviors.

At the Penn State Conference Dr. Finkelhor (at marker 29.06 in the video) said:

One interesting feature although not well established, but speculative feature that’s been shown by some of the research is that when, particularly adult men are involved the early care giving of children, it tends to serve as a kind of protective feature and deter or at least inhibits sexual abuse later on; that’s my way of saying that we should be encouraging men to get more involved with the care of children and not keep them out of their care.

This is a pro-pedophile statement. He’s saying that while speculative he believes that allowing men who are pedophiles to be involved with the care of their children at an early age it could reduce Intrafamiliar child sexual abuse. How in the world would you know this unless children came forward and said, “My father was a pedophile but he never molested anyone in our family including me.” How would a child know that their father (or mother) was a pedophile unless they were abused?

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Is this a conversation pedophiles have around the table with their children without actual abuse taking place? On the other hand, why would the assumption be, that any adult man would need to be in the care of their children at an early age to reduce child sexual abuse? This statement is assuming that all men are pedophiles, sexual predators, inter-generationally (minor) attracted or that he was speaking to his pro-pedophile community.

A few minutes later in the video of him speaking at the Penn State Child Sexual Abuse Conference he says:

There’s a whole class of people that sort of stand in similar relationship to children, these include:

  • Teachers
  • Youth Staff and volunteers for youth-serving organizations
  • Clergy and Religious Organizations

These probably the most common category is school personnel simply because those are the adult mentors and professionals that kids actually have the most contact with. But, it’s actually a group that we haven’t done a good job at counting – pay attention to.

At 31.59 he says:

These are people who have unique grooming resources because of the authority that the institution vests in them. These are cases of child sexual abuse that are very divisive because they involve a whole community of people.

And he goes on to name the all-inclusive communities that he is referring to in his statement. From this angle he positions the beginning of his teaching with the fact that adults are standing in “similar relationship” with children, yet he says himself that these adults are in leadership, authoritarian and mentorship positions over these children.

I do not see how this would make them in equal relationship. Even if we were talking about two adults in which one is mentored, and the other the mentor there is no way to say that they are in equal relationship.

At 33:50 Finkelhor begins to talk about statutory or compliant victims saying:

These are for the most part teens. They are teens who get into relationships with considerably older partners most often in a voluntary way, because they see some potential in [this] relationship for excitement, adventure, think that they’re in love; want to find out about sex and feel like this is an opportunity to do so. We see, in this group too, an unusual number of female offenders as teenaged boys get involved with older women. Older partners can have a strong allure for teenagers because of the resources they have and the confidence they exude and flattery that young people feel by the interests that the adults have. About 1/3 of the arrests for crimes against children are for statutory sex crimes.

Dr. David Finkelhor sounds like a pedophile in his presentation. I am by no means calling him one, but I am questioning the arrangement of his statements because of his level of expertise and I know that he stands on the side of protecting pedophilia. He is in the group of those seeking to legalize it.

In this part of his presentation he never once puts responsibility on the older adult to reject advances from teens. Additionally, it has been recorded that many teens who want to sexually explore with adults have been sexually active at a young age, many times as a result of child sexual abuse.

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He put all the activity, interest and responsibility on the child, as if the child can consent and the adult is given a green light to abuse the child. Pedophilia is an attraction to pre-pubescent children which he supports, so I am not surprised that he would use language that other types of “philes” use here to relax the idea that children are approaching adults for sex and it is okay to oblige.

When Dr. Finkelhor talks about human trafficking (which is not my focus area), he mentions that “children get into selling themselves” and the language concern is that he should be saying that children who are escaping foster care or child sexual abuse, who are forced into homelessness or other dynamics become vulnerable to prostitution as a result of involuntary circumstances.

He should also be sharing that “children are being sold” and not that children are selling themselves. If a child can not consent, and they may not understand the dynamics of the life that they will be involved in, it is the responsibility of the pimp or adult to ask their age, and to make sure that they are not involved with prostitution.

Instead pimps take advantage of children whom they know do not have support or family around them, who will look for them or monitor their activity. Dr. Finkelhor presents the idea that children voluntarily thrust themselves into a dangerous occupation as if it is something that they’ve aspired to do.

Does this man condone child rape and molestation?

Ressurrection Graves is a child sexual abuse grooming expert who has authored a petition to make it a felony. She writes, speaks and educates the masses on protecting children and healing as adults from past child sexual abuse.


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Dr. Benjamin Carson: Same-Sex Marriage and the correlation between Homosexuality, Pedophilia, and Bestiality

As a professional, Dr. Carson understands that he is the Director of Neurosurgery alongside pedophile professionals who are seeking to through academia justify and re-categorize pedophilia so that it is seen with the same tolerance and acceptance as homosexuality. This movement did not began today.

Johns Hopkins University held a conference last year for a group of homosexual-pedophile professionals who are working diligently to change the definition of pedophilia from a mental disorder by the American Psychological Association, within its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders to a sexual orientation like homosexuality.

In 1973, when the same thing happened to homosexuality, there was only one defining piece of information that led to the change of homosexuality from a mental disorder to a sexual orientation, and that was the “Kinsey Report”. The “Kinsey Report” as it is affectionately called is a book that was put out by Alfred Kinsey who was a satanist, a homosexual-pedophile, sadomasochist, who believed in having sex with same-sex, animals, and children.

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His influence has started movements in the homosexual (Harry Hay) and pornography (Hugh Hefner) communities. The next stop you ask? Legalizing sex with children. Bestiality will follow. There’s one problem with the Kinsey system (other than the obvious), he lied. Dr. Judith Reisman has spent her entire professional career proving this to be true.

He interviewed pedophiles and people who were already in jail, and passed off their stories and submissions as research within the communities of stable, white suburban households of women who would have never done the things that he professed in his book. He launched an entire movement because people thought that their neighbors told Kinsey something that they weren’t telling each other.

So when Dr. Benjamin Carson who is the Director of Pediatric Neurosurgery at Johns Hopkins Hospital makes statements about his personal views regarding the correlation between homosexuality, pedophilia and bestiality it is important that we seek out the information that he may be unable to say in his public comments. In that respect I will offer them here from both a professional and biblical standpoint.

John Hopkins University, and Pro-Pedophile Movement Dr. Fred Berlin

John Hopkins University, and Pro-Pedophile Movement Dr. Fred Berlin

The pro-pedophile agenda is pushed by Dr. Fred S. Berlin and Dr. Finkelhor who are both respected in their professions, which can be very misleading to the masses. Education has become a bully and a determinant of who knows best. Dr. Fred S. Berlin is the associate professor of the Sexual Behavior Consultation Unit within the Psychiatry and Behavioral Science Department at John Hopkins University.

Dr. Berlin, founder of the Johns Hopkins Sexual Disorders Clinic, specializes in the evaluation and treatment of patients with sexual disorders, such as pedophilia, voyeurism, and exhibitionism, according to John Hopkins’ website.

In my personal opinion, anyone who supports the idea that pedophilia should be legalized is either a pedophile or some kind of sexual predator or child molester. Dr. Berlin, is closely tied to groups like B4-U-Act, an organization very similar to NAMBLA who is seeking to legalize sex with children.

Dr. Carson accepted a request for my daughter’s class many years ago. She was mesmerized by his humble nature, his level of success and his outright disclosure that he is a christian. It is a defining moment in her youth.




As Dr. Carson said in his video response about his personal views on homosexuality, pedophilia and bestiality all-inclusive, his beliefs about same-sex marriage have been that way for 20 years. Today however, the media launches full-out attacks on people, making assumptions about their entire view. And, people are being conditioned to do the same.

As a christian, it is believed that God sees homosexuality, pedophilia and bestiality as sexual perversion. And in my research I find individuals who worship satan as the leadership of sexually perverted movements like Aleister Crowley and Alfred Kinsey.

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After viewing the entire Penn State Child Sexual Abuse Conference, which was put together as an action to resolve the Sandusky case from a societal perspective I was alarmed and baffled by some of Dr. David Finkelhor’s beliefs about relaxing the laws concerning pedophiles.

Finkelhor spoke at John’s Hopkins for that conference last year and was slated to be the keynote speaker this year before it was cancelled after all the media attention to John Hopkins University because of Dr. Carson’s statements.

Dr. Carson’s comments were that of his belief system. The core of who we all are reflect what we believe. All of the choices we make, who we vote for or against, and what we stand up for or remain silent on have to do with what we believe. This should never be bullied by opposing views and I appreciate Dr. Carson’s unshakable demeanor concerning those who would seek to delegitimize his success because his thoughts are not supported by popular demand.

He was not choosing to create a political platform, rather to express his beliefs in a way that would create dialogue to rising issues like movements which promote pedophilia. As Dr. Carson said, homosexuality and pedophilia are not the same in that, children are unable to consent.

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The ACLU defends pedophilia, but that’s another story. There are groups of people in white coats, suits and ties with Dr. in front of or acronyms placed behind their name leading unsuspecting individuals without those credentials to believe that the lawyers, judges, politicians, and educators know what is best.

I believe that God has always known what is best, and it is important that we understand what God-intimacy is, so that we can identify the movements that seek to change definitions and force agreement upon us that would harm our children and families.

Dr. Carson is entitled to his views without being bullied or called childish names. I encourage black liberals not to make this about Affirmative Action or racially motivated stances but to see the real issue – that Dr. Carson is working alongside some of the people we should be protesting but he is not one of them.

In conclusion, from a biblical perspective there is a correlation between what Dr. Benjamin Carson said about homosexuality, pedophilia and bestiality. However from a completely NON-BIBLICAL perspective there is a correlation between what he said as well. The movement that I write about is being conducted through the disguise of “science and research” and THEY – NOT ME – are saying that normalizing homosexuality allows them to do the same with pedophilia. I am the messenger – don’t shoot me just wake up! – Thank you. – Ressurrection Graves

Ressurrection Graves is a child sexual abuse grooming expert who has authored a petition to make it a felony. She writes, speaks and educates the masses on protecting children and healing as adults from past child sexual abuse.

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Error of Man: Gay couple accused of raping adopted children

Error of Man: Gay couple accused of raping adopted children.

If Harasz, 49, and Wirth, 45, had continued with the deal, they would have been given suspended prison sentences and probation, WFSB-TV said.

The reason that Child Sexual Abuse Grooming MUST become a Felony conviction. I believe that the felony conviction should carry a life sentence without the opportunity for parole or a suspended sentence.


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Nicole Kidman plays a Pedophile

Nicole Kidman playing the role of a pedophile, and thinks it’s okay? The producers of the film are pedophiles and thought it would be great to cast Kidman with a 10-year-old child? Anyone disturbed yet?

Below is a link to the paper describing the film that I believe you should read. The scene that I found online was so disturbing that it was difficult to watch. What adult has this kind of romantic connection with a child? It is very important for us to guard our eyes and all of what we take into our spirit, soul and body.

Article HERE

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Joel Osteen Hoax: Why This Rumor Seems to be Believable

Joel Osteen was the victim of an internet hoax. I see how easily people can be swayed. A 12-year-member of his church even called for him to be prayed for assuming that the rumor was true writing this:

“We’ll pray for him. He’s come under the influence of the Devil,’ said Margaret Samson”

I would have at least waited for a word from God, a statement from the man or something. In fact on other people’s Facebook pages, I responded in comments telling people to wait for a real statement from him. Instead the negative comments appeared locked and loaded long before they were aware of the hoax. In my status I said this:

Just so that we are clear IF Joel Osteen denounces Christ, it should not move you. Many of you have dogged him for years because he wasn’t deep enough, and even I admit I don’t get much from hearing him smile and speak but I’m sure someone does. Here is the bottom line: If you know God for yourself, your core belief system should not be shaken. Move on. Keep living for God because guess what? Joel Osteen is a pastor and he has a price to pay IF he is misleading you. You on the other hand, have a responsibility not to make him your God. Look Up. Look In (your bible). Good night.

I have no negative thoughts about Joel Osteen, I’m just more of a Joyce Meyer kind of woman. She speaks the truth sometimes with a bit of an edge. Her teaching is not for everyone and quite frankly neither is mine. We are all called to specific people. We see illustrations of that in the word of God.


I’m troubled however by the freedom in this country to kill people, and injure an entire body of people who may not be aware of hoaxes that are formed. I do not understand how a hoax may be protected under free speech and I believe that greater penalties must be given for those who intentionally start twitter deaths, fake websites using brand-like url’s providing false information.

I thought that was called defamation of character: To knowingly create and disseminate fabricated stories in order to harm another person’s life, brand or character? What would happen if someone had committed suicide because of this?

The reality is that we are all in different places spiritually, and for a leader such as Osteen to quit his ministry and create his own would be uprooting (also called raping) a stretch of plants in the ground removing them from their foundation. It has been said that a person’s spiritual foundation is the core of who he or she is, and I believe that the person who did this should be found and held accountable legally. Is this a hate crime?

The rumor seems believable because Joel Osteen has been said to not quote the bible in his television ministry. I do not know how he preaches, but I do know that Israel Houghton has been his minister of music for a while and I’ve seen him in person several times. I don’t understand how it’s possible for Israel to create such an atmosphere for Joel to give analogies and funny stories the entire time he ministers.

People often question his ability to teach the word because it appears that he does not but remember what I said as I began this article. We are all called to a specific people. Some people are called to the poor, some are called to the rich. There are some people who may not be able to receive from a Joyce Meyers or someone like me, hence Joel Osteen.

A man made a comment that sparked this article. He said:

No one else is mentioning this so I will:

I have tried to watch Joel Osteen before because at a party a few people were speaking well of him.

I couldn’t even force myself to watch more than about five minutes of this guy. I couldn’t stomach his phony demeanor.
Then I read about him and how with no credentials he took over his fathers ministries, and was able to get lots of unsuspecting people to give him loads of money.
I always wondered, don’t the people that send him money watch him?
I would send him a dime. I can’t believe people are so naive as to send him their hard earned money.
I think it is fitting that a trick was pulled on him, I hope it cost him a bazillion banana’s.

His name was John Tod, at least this was his online user name. He sounds ignorant to me on many levels. I want to respond to it because I think it is important. In observing Joel, watching very old videos of him until now, I don’t believe he or his wife are phony. You can’t keep this up for 20 years. He is Mr. Nice Guy. We’ve all met one in high school. I had a librarian like him. I always wanted to be this nice. Maybe if he weren’t a pastor he’d be a librarian, and smile.

The people who send him money do watch him. This comment was lacking legitimacy. They watch and apparently the population of people who he has helped to learn about Jesus Christ are moved by his floating on air approach. Some people apparently don’t like it rough.

I don’t understand how people become naive because you aren’t controlling their spending budget. People send him money because they want to sew seed into his ministry. It is not about him and people seem to misunderstand that he has a church who has a board of directors.

Pastor of Lakewood Church, Joel Osteen

Pastor of Lakewood Church, Joel Osteen

Joel Osteen does not get all of that money. I disagree with the church being connected to the government in this organized, structured way but that is another article. The truth is, we should never send money to man. Your choice to send money for tithes, church or pastor’s offering should be something from you to God. Man in no way becomes your source. People who send him money do so because they want to connect their faith to his anointing. Pastors work diligently in spirit, soul and body for their sheep. Sheep is not a term to be confused with weak or anything derogatory. It is really unfounded for people to expect pastors to be poor, living under a bridge but ministering the gospel so that you won’t.

The other thing I don’t understand about people who have so much to say about ministries is, who told you that a pastor has to be qualified? The only person that qualifies a pastor is God – period. Why are you asking about Osteen’s credentials? You can’t qualify or discredit him. Here’s the good news though – if his teaching doesn’t minister to you, just unfollow him. – Ressurrection Graves

People who really live for God understand that man is not their source, God is! With that said, I’m glad you John, had the opportunity to get all of that off of your chest. You’re not the only one.

Hopefully, this will teach those of you who spoke too soon how not to put your foot in your mouth. We have to watch how we speak about others, as we certainly do not want to be ill spoken of in the same way. Oh yes, and then there’s the scripture which says that we could be entertaining angels unaware. Backbiting is not attractive, on any gender, anywhere, under any circumstances.

Joel and Victoria Osteen have launched “A Night of Hope” which is a tour.

A Night of Hope events last for 2 to 2 1/2 hours and are filled with praise and worship music, encouragment from Victoria Osteen, a special testimony from Dodie Osteen, a prayer time together and an inspiring message from Joel Osteen. There is no intermission, according to their website.

I believe this was an attack on the christian faith and not necessarily Joel Osteen. What say you?

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Quote of the Day: National Child Sexual Abuse Awareness Month

Child Sexual Abuse Awareness Month April 2013


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