What about your friends?

I was trying to figure out what I wanted to talk about today. Earlier this morning I was crying the blues inside because I had that nagging “I miss…” feeling. I was trying to find something else to concentrate on but it was ever-present like hunger.

As the day went on, I was reminded of the Barbara Walters interview with Oprah Winfrey. Oprah began to weep when she thought about her and Gail’s friendship. The way that she described Gail was amazing to me. “The friend that everyone should have,” she repeats.

When I think about friendships and how they develop, I am reminded about the time that it takes to learn a person’s heart. Often in love we do think that it should come quickly or that you will just “know” however, I am challenging myself today to think about the reality of meeting someone that you “know” is the one and still cultivating an intimate friendship.

With relationships, pressures for sex, and commitment often cause anxiety. For adults with children, I believe that bringing a child into your relationship before you have had the time to court and to grow, can add pressure for commitment to ensue. In fact, I believe that if we strip ourselves of the pressures, we would entertain a lot less relationships, at least for any significant amount of time.

With Oprah, I resonated with her tears because it has always been a desire of my heart to have a true friend who, regardless of my angels or my demons would be ready to celebrate or cry with me; cast down something bad and rejoice in something positive concerning my life.

Well ladies and gentlemen, I realize now that I have indeed found a few friends who could careless if I’m rich or poor, who believe in me, and see me on the inside. I believe that these few intimate friends would pray for me, tell me about myself, and still love me. They have seen me spiritually high and spiritually low.

Although we are all made differently and we respond to situations differently, when I faced a variety of crisis’ these friends seem to remain and contribute with their hearts.

I am grateful to recognize my friends today who see the Ressurrection on Facebook, and the Ressurrection on their phone when things aren’t perfect. Today I am grateful that over years of consistent communication and personal pitfalls and achievement I realize that they are still in my corner.

So, today I thank my friends, for being a demonstration of love. I may not have found my romantic love to last a lifetime yet but I am an advocate of connecting to the energy that you want to surround you. Over the last two years, I purged friendships that were selfish, unfaithful, and unloving, including some family members. And I trusted God that he would bring me close friends that I could stand with in any weather, and that my daughter could count on if I were not here.

I trusted that he would send me a few friends that I could have decades of pictures and memories with who were faithful, and strong and loving, that I could be the same kind of friend to.

The remnant of the last two years’ destruction is certainly beautiful. Maybe everything was torn down so that I could see what would still stand.
Thank you God for bringing me friends that love me like you do!

If you have a friend that you are reminded of because of this article, send it to them with a special note and let them know how grateful you are that they have chosen you to love!


About Ressurrection

Ressurrection Graves is a Child Sexual Abuse Grooming Expert and H.E.A.L.E.R. (Healer, Educator, Activist, Life Skills Expert, Empowerment Speaker, Relationship Mentor) Her website reaches readership in 188 countries. She is available for national speaking engagements, radio and television interviews. She can be reached at: 202.717.7377 or send your request to: ressurrection dot wordpress at yahoo dot com or comment on http://www.ressurrection.wordpress.com
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