3) Identifying your Quadrant- Every relationship should have a discussion based on reading the book, “The Cashflow Quadrant” by Robert Kiyosaki. The book is not only about how much money you want to make, or how simple you want to live, reading this book helps you to personally identify what type of lifestyle you desire and will make clear to you, your risk level.
When two people have different risk levels, and comfort zones, it could either balance the relationship or hold one person back from pursuing their purpose. Finding out a person’s skills, talents and capabilities are necessary in any category, however, discussing your life style format will help you determine if the person is wanting to own their own business because they are passionate and it wakes them up in the morning, if they are just seeking riches and the root of their persistence is greed of status and recognition, or if they really have the ability to take what they love and create a business that will change the economy in some way.
Assessing whether the person’s risky behavior is used with discipline and wisdom is also key in determining whether you trust their decision-making skills and honestly deciding whether you can support their causes.
In the Cashflow Quadrant, Robert Kiyosaki identifies four areas of career choices and risk level in business. Are you an Employee, a Self-Employed person, a business owner or an investor? Some people are more than one in their lifetime and some people are more than one at the same time. While this is a business book, the idea for your relationship is to discuss what quadrants you fit into and create a vision or timeline of what life looks like to you. Although we can not plan each moment, identifying what your ideas, goals, and purpose is will help you as a couple assess your compatibility.
A few more questions on this topic before we move on; how important to you is it that the wife works? Can she stay home after the children? This is not just important for income, but for intellectual stimuli. As many men who are educated professionals and meet with professional women in their academic or professional environment, they are desiring a woman with their own knowledge, judgments, thoughts, criticism, and education in certain areas of life.
In business, career path, parenting and your life partnership, you must disclose equally your ideas about each other’s day to day to see if there are potential conflicts. This may be ironed out but, what if she wants you to work a steady 9-5 until you are in the grave? Or, vice versus? What if you want to write your business plan and be the next Ray Kroc (Creator of the McDonald’s Franchise)?
*part three is just a day away… stay tuned!