Can Married People Work Together?

Let’s talk about relationships! It seems to be everyone’s favorite subject whether they want to admit it or not. We have to relate to others and discovering how to co-exist is vitally important to our spiritual, mental, physical and especially our emotional health.

I have a friend who was married. She owned her own business, and has always worked for herself drawing a six-figure income. When she found her husband, he is great at what he does but needed help running his office. She came in, cleaned everything up and brought favor to his business. She did not draw a salary, and when she asked for one he dumped her. He took her money, and house that she brought to the relationship as well as his own. He left her and her child homeless and destitute. She only asked for a salary after she noticed a lack of integrity with money in the office. But, it was not wrong to make this request. With business partners, they both sit down and draw up a contract that include the work that they do, and the pay for each person to put it simply.

One of the things that I always mention when talking about what I desire, or what I like about my past relationships is the ability to enjoy quality time with one another. I like that the guys that I have dated feel comfortable around my energy and sharing space together. In a dream when I was very young, I could see my man being very comfortable working with me, and when I became an adult, I always imagined that I would be able to work with my husband not as an employee but as business partners.

I own a business now, and I am very creative. I am not intending to wait it out until I locate the man of my dreams to begin my career. I have been an Entrepreneur for sometime. However, when I think about a relationship, I would enjoy being around my man. If I don’t enjoy being around him, I personally don’t want to be with him.

In thinking of settling down for life partnership, one of the things that I have prayed about is a man with some business sense or business ownership interest. Due to my line of work, it would be impossible for me to have a friendship with my man and never talk about what I am passionate about, business and the arts! I want to be free to be me, which means he has to actually find me interesting.

I was watching an episode of My Wife, and Kids and I noticed that Tisha Campbell, nicknamed Jay on the show was incredibly annoying. She lost her job as a stock broker and asked to come work with her husband at his business. The thing is, she completely took over. It was out of line and it was the most annoying show in their history if you ask me.

I am not married, but I don’t think you have to be to learn how to be considerate and to enter someone’s space with respect and reverence. Jay was right that they both owned the company but, investors don’t get to walk into an operation that they own and start telling people what to do. Everyone plays a role in the success of the company, and for someone to walk in and completely undermine the CEO, is actually a disservice to the entire organization.

Here are some tips for Couple’s and Partners when establishing a business relationship:

  1. Write down what your expectations are of yourself and your potential partner(s).
  2. Negotiate everything, choosing to come to amicable agreements that meet each other halfway. Remember that no one is Right or Wrong. People find all kinds of creative ways to make relationships work.
  3. When you find what works with your partner, stick to it, and do not entertain the opinions of others. Agreement is powerful both in the positive and negative.

These are just a few tips to help you in your dialogue. I enjoy helping business owners put their heart on paper, and make a plan out it. I am great with helping people to work through the process, and to develop a business plan that will create a blueprint for success.

Married couples be not deceived, it is more important for you to have conversations about money when you don’t have any, than to wait until the business is working in your favor to start calculating each other economic value or sweat equity.

Enjoy this video of My Wife and Kids, just in case you did not see the episode that I am talking about.


About Ressurrection

Ressurrection Graves is a Child Sexual Abuse Grooming Expert and H.E.A.L.E.R. (Healer, Educator, Activist, Life Skills Expert, Empowerment Speaker, Relationship Mentor) Her website reaches readership in 188 countries. She is available for national speaking engagements, radio and television interviews. She can be reached at: 202.717.7377 or send your request to: ressurrection dot wordpress at yahoo dot com or comment on
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