Oprah, pregnant at 14 and half-sister found!

I am not surprised by this situation at all. I am excited that Oprah has embraced this family secret and was able to share it with us on her terms.

My mother told me that I have 28 sisters and brothers, only six of which belong to my mother and father together. I have met one half sister, and when I went on Twitter for the first time, and searched for myself, I believe that I have found another sibling, who lives in Philadelphia. He has not responded to my inquiry about him being my brother but he has my father’s name, is an identical twin to my father’s brother and my brother, and the information that I have been given specifically about him by other siblings match up.

In my early twenties, I really wanted to meet these other siblings. Apparently, I am number 28 of 29. I have a little brother somewhere, that I met before my father’s passing who looks like one of my brothers, that they say I am a twin to.

Family is such a beautiful thing. We don’t want to be in a family filled with dysfunction but unfortunately we don’t get to pick that. I think it’s powerful that Oprah had the opportunity to meet her half-sister.

I would be interested to know why her mother named two of her children the same name. In paying attention to Oprah’s life, I feel like their are so many similarities. I think that learning about her in some way personally, has helped others to connect. I love that she has not gotten famous by scandal, but by her work, and I love that she is powerful and demanding enough to make her life work on her terms despite the public interest.

Oprah began to tear when she recalls the betrayal of others who have sold stories to tabloids, including her sister who shared that Oprah was a teenage mother. Oprah was pregnant at 14, and lost the baby after birth.

It took me a long time to feel unashamed about being pregnant at 14. People often have personal opinions or make up your story in their minds, without so much as a conversation. What I appreciate about Oprah is that she is incredible at what she does, but she is still relatable.

Her mother’s emotional absence reminds me of my own mother. I know that my mother doesn’t have any hidden children, but I am sure my father does. I know my daddy’s children though. I am confident we won’t even need a DNA test, although I would probably still go through the process.

I salute Oprah for revealing her family secret at all, and doing it on her terms. One day, I would really like to meet my siblings. I had given up, and a part of me felt like I was incomplete without knowing my family. Now, given all that I talk about in my memoir about growing up, and the challenges of teenage motherhood, in Identity Crisis, Identity Christ Is: A Journey to Love I am not as enthusiastic about meeting new family members because I don’t know what to expect.

It would be great to have a sister that I hang out with. I don’t know what it is like to have a sister to call me just because they are wanting to talk to me, or to hang out with me. I don’t know what it’s like to have a sister to choose me for social activities or to talk about boys.

I have always wanted a brother to spend more time with who would make me his best friend. I see a lot of brother and sister relationships that are close knit and I think it’s honorable and helpful in them forming other relationships.

Congratulations to Oprah!

I pray that getting to know your sister, niece and nephew offer you a brand new joy, and some hidden riches. I do believe that God has his own timing in mind. We are concerned with things of this world, and he is concerned about his glory. What a present at the beginning of retirement!

“Mistakes can make us feel ashamed. What is so empowering about our mistakes is the ability to overcome all of the feelings behind them, learning how to stand up, and walk while being kicked, beaten, and ridiculed. You can know who you are, but not be comfortable with it completely because of your mistakes. It is a powerful thing, when a person is comfortable in knowing who they are. They become truly invincible.”  -Ressurrection

About Ressurrection

Ressurrection Graves is a Child Sexual Abuse Grooming Expert and H.E.A.L.E.R. (Healer, Educator, Activist, Life Skills Expert, Empowerment Speaker, Relationship Mentor) Her website reaches readership in 188 countries. She is available for national speaking engagements, radio and television interviews. She can be reached at: 202.717.7377 or send your request to: ressurrection dot wordpress at yahoo dot com or comment on http://www.ressurrection.wordpress.com
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