Does your mother control you? Part One

Tonight I was talking to my friend who I had not had a chance to talk to in a long while. This was the first time that we spent time together just her and I. We were supposed to do business however one grocery store lead to another and then we were talking like girlfriends do over food.

We are the same age and she’s been with her man for 9 years. They are married and living for God. She reiterated what people keep telling me which is that my man is not going to come perfect. She alluded to the 80/20 rule that Tyler Perry makes mention of in the movie “Why did I get married?

I know he’s not going to come perfect but what does that mean? I know that you have heard me mention in past blogs my thoughts about the term that I created for my own life “non-negotiables.” Everybody has them.

I don’t want to list any here but what in the bleep does it mean that I will be presented with. Tonight my friend and I were leaving Glut in Mt. Rainier when somebody’s light-skinned child with a red nose from the 30′ weather starts following my friend. She says to me as I walk with my calm stroll “start the car, start the car.” I didn’t see dude and I didn’t feel a press in my spirit so I was literally just chillin talking about cold it was tryin to get to the car.

Then I look back and he is asking her for her number. As I told her, the only flattering thing about the following incident is that he looked 18 which means he thought we were in his age group. He rolls up on her and says “Can I get your number? You got a boyfriend?” This backwards joke of a dude is getting pimp slapped by the same wind that was trying to take us out.

She said, ” I have a husband” and this fool continued asking for the number. For your information (FYI),  you look like an idiot asking someone “Are you happy?” That’s like asking someone if they are hungry and they say,” I ate” and then you respond but are you happy with what you ate. Whether I’m happy or not, I’m full!

I digress! He continued and then looked at me after I carried him and asked for my number. Okay, you are probably wondering is this a joke?

No, I assure you I can’t make this mess up. He comes on my side of the car and tells me to roll the window down. Needless to say either he moved or would kissed my lambo lights! I’m gone!

I’m not getting the kind of 80/20’s that I would want to date! All we could do was laugh at the absurdity of his request. My friend is the only friend I have where people have asked if we are sisters. He was probably thinking he hit the jackpot! But, sadly no.

*stay tuned for the part two of “Does your mother control you?” I promise it gets more interesting.

About Ressurrection

Ressurrection Graves is a Child Sexual Abuse Grooming Expert and H.E.A.L.E.R. (Healer, Educator, Activist, Life Skills Expert, Empowerment Speaker, Relationship Mentor) Her website reaches readership in 188 countries. She is available for national speaking engagements, radio and television interviews. She can be reached at: 202.717.7377 or send your request to: ressurrection dot wordpress at yahoo dot com or comment on
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