Last night, in my drunken sleepiness, I wrote this awesome article about Emotional Abuse and Name Calling. The problem is, I must have woke up with the same drunken sleepiness because I have misplaced/lost my purse somewhere between two states this morning. It has my blackberry in it. I don’t even know that I can concentrate to be honest but oooooh, I am going to put forth the effort.
All this week, I promised to talk about Emotional Abuse and on Monday, we defined it. Yesterday, I wrote the blog about name calling, and was prepared to upload it now, however, it is in my purse on a flash drive.
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According to the article that I have about Emotional Abuse there are three types or categories that most people fall under as the predator or victim. The three categories are Aggressing, Denying, and Minimizing.
Today I want to talk about minimizing. Have you ever met someone who always minimizes serious situations? Minimizing is described in the article as a less extreme form of denial. Minimizing can be emotionally abusive because the person is not necessarily denying that the event or situation occurred, they are just minimizing your personal experience as it relates to the events.
We have all met someone who tries to make what is important to you, less important somehow. Sometimes in an emotionally abusive relationship, someone can talk to you with disrespect, or embarrass you by putting your down or speaking in a condescending tone. When you confront them about how they made you feel, they trivialize the situation even if their instinct tells them that they were wrong. People who reduce your experience, usually do not apologize.
As a result of entertaining this kind of relationship, you can begin to feel insecure, question your own emotions and make excuses for others’ intentions. You are unhappy and to some degree confused about reality.
I want to encourage you today, to pay attention to the rotten apples in your life who are emotionally abusive toward you. The people who talk down to you, and then pretend that they have not done so, or minimize your experience by stating that you are overreacting.
We are journeying to love as Identity Crisis, Identity Christ Is: A Journey to Love suggests. You have to create standards that require others to treat you with love and respect. You have the right to have your own view, to have your own experience, to confront conflicts without being mistreated for doing so.
You are uniquely amazing, it is how God made us to be; each different yet brilliantly designed. I encourage you today to explore your life and look for those areas where you are either abusive or being abused. Choose to live a better life, free from emotional abuse so that you can attract healthy relationships that support you and admire you.
Proverbs 31:26 Amplified- She opens her mouth in skillful and godly Wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness (giving counsel and instruction).
Even when we are giving instructions, we can be kind. There is never a time where we have to speak with anger, discontented, filth, rudeness and hostility and assume that we will reap support, subordination, love, agreement, and loyalty.
- My Letter to My Mother – Overcoming Emotional Abuse (ressurrection.wordpress.com)