Can you hang in there…?
I have heard the saying it’s not how you start, it’s how you finish. One of the things that has really truck me during this process is how people start with offering support vs. how they finish. I have only seen instances in the bible where when God stepped in to heal, deliver, set free someone or people that they come out better than when they started, or when he showed up.
However, people get mad, they form opinions, they come up with explanation for why someone would be in the mess that they are in and then they choose to recede their support.
In most cases they feel justified that they “helped” you, because of course, they did not have to do anything at all.
When we give we don’t do it grudgingly or of necessity. The bible did not say that you shouldn’t give grudgingly in the beginning or in the ending. I believe he was referring to your total position, and your attitude, not for the moment but for the process.
Being a Giver gives us:
- Access to the blessing
- Relationship with the person that we are giving to
Our hearts have a responsibility to remain the same toward the person we have chosen to love and support. You may discover that there are some personality differences but it doesn’t mean that you can finish the way your started.
Finishing the way that you started has everything to do with your heart, position and commitment. There is great reward for the love that you show in other people’s turmoil.
With a nation that is one paycheck away from homelessness, and a government that has released a statement that they expected 60,000 new jobs next month and that zero new jobs were reported, shows us that like many people’s homes in the real estate market went upside down, so can our lives.
In Identity Crisis, Identity Christ Is: A Journey to Love I dedicate a whole chapter to Compassion. And in the sequel, I will talk about this subject, being a friend, and atmosphere changer and sticking around to see the person win.
We have people who come in and out of our lives, I believe that to be true, but I do believe that sometimes it is a choice.