The Pennsylvania Control Board pushes new campaign that justifies rape with alcohol

Pennsylvania Control Board Approves this Ad

Pennsylvania Control Board Approves this Ad

To: The Pennsylvania Control Board


My name is Ressurrection Graves, an author and victor of Rape and Child Sexual Abuse. I am appalled that a campaign targeting women as the fault of rape would be deemed acceptable in your eyes.

While young women, and men drink and their thoughts impaired, at no time should a woman who has clearly said “NO” be told that her drinking played a role in her misfortune.

In your ad, a teenage girl has her panties around her ankles and the text reads, ” She didn’t want to do it but she just couldn’t say NO!”

The misrepresentation that all teenage girls who are drunk may say “yes” is alarming and I fear that this kind of commercialism toward gender inequality will lead to more difficulty in the prosecution of rape. You present a “She asked for it” attitude.

You are saying that a teenage girl who is drunk may live in regret after having sex however, if she has in fact proven herself impaired of judgment, and penetration is taking advantage of a vulnerable situation.

Instead, the risk of teenage drinking should include impaired judgment but you need to pull that ad immediately. It is never a woman’s fault if she is assaulted. And there is never an excuse for a man to have sex with a woman if she says NO, or if she appears to be unable to give you a clear answer about whether she wants to have sex or not.

Perhaps an ad with a man looking at a woman who is clearly impaired in a seductive way should be a more appropriate anti-rape campaign where you say something like, “She couldn’t say yes, but she couldn’t say no- and I wanted it anyway.” Then you’d have to have a big sign somewhere on the ad that says “drink responsibly: a campaign FOR making better choices”.

I do not expect you to go with an ad that I just came up with in writing this letter, but the one that you are using sends a false message to women/girls, men/boys all over. Rape is never justified and is never the fault of the victim.

Please remove the ads immediately and as a bonus, terminate the person that created and approved the campaign.


A few days after writing this letter, and sending it to the Control Board, I received a lengthy letter back stating that they would indeed pull the campaign. Who says writing a letter doesn’t work? I consider this a fantastic victory!

Thank you,

Ressurrection Graves
202.717.7377 (RESS)

About Ressurrection

Ressurrection Graves is a Child Sexual Abuse Grooming Expert and H.E.A.L.E.R. (Healer, Educator, Activist, Life Skills Expert, Empowerment Speaker, Relationship Mentor) Her website reaches readership in 188 countries. She is available for national speaking engagements, radio and television interviews. She can be reached at: 202.717.7377 or send your request to: ressurrection dot wordpress at yahoo dot com or comment on
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