Homosexualtiy as Christians II


I am a black, female, with long dreadlocks, I’m overweight (sexy though), and my name is long and looks foreign. My name is also “christian” so people assume. I have been looking for a job for some time now without success, and often I come across the thought that I’m being discriminated against. I have been treated poorly in my past, and have had to seek action due to discrimination and won so I am not hallucinating here. However, in this case it is possible that my resume needed to be critiqued, and that I don’t have enough of the contacts that are useful to me in the employee department.

I haven’t exhausted all of my options, so I am doing that now. I bring this up because I feel like when the word homosexual comes up people are ready to bring out all the guns just as blacks do with discrimination. With all due respect, blacks went through 400 years of slavery, had to endure being put on boats, smothered under dead bodies while they sailed seas to get here.

My goal is not to compare blacks to homosexuality but rather to inquire about the spiritual significance of the lifestyle that we choose. Is it true that homosexuality could very well be something that is not Godly?

If we understand it to be this unnatural affection, how does one choose to live a life that is holy? If someone is five or six, that does not mean that they were “born that way.” And, even if they were, we were born into sin, according to the word.

I was five years old when I first saw pornography and lost my virginity, all in the same day. I was exposed to some things that I do not believe I should have been exposed to. To say that I am a particular way because of my experiences would give an excuse right? I’m trying to pull the question out of myself as I type.

If LOVE is a spiritual experience, but it is also something that we choose, is it possible that we choose to love the same sex? I understand what it is to battle against flesh and blood because I have had my share of battles as a single person. I didn’t want to be out having sex all willy-nilly, as comedian Cedric the Entertainer would say. I want the comfort, love, adoration, respect, and touch of a man. I learned self-control, but there are still times when I look up in the sky and say, “Come on!”

Sexually, I believe that once you have passed the thresh-hold of self-discipline you can go into uncharted territory where you may be attacked in other areas, particularly the mind.

Marriage is Ministry

At the end of the day whether we are talking about love or sex, we have a choice in the lifestyle that we choose. It has nothing to do with attractiveness. I had a lady get on my table that I thought was a man. She was built like a linebacker. She looked like she could head bunt a cow and crack his body wide-open from the split in his head to his tail.

She was one of the nicest, happiest women that I have had as a client. She talked about her adult children and her husband. When she started talking about her husband I am almost screamed. As unprofessional as that may have been it was shocking to me that she was a woman, let alone married! They were a happy couple.

Marriage, and partnership are less about how we feel, and more about ministry and purpose. While I do not believe that people who are in positions of authority like pastors should be struggling with their identity, I do believe that we as people do. I believe that the pastors and priests must be on a higher spiritual level, just as you would want a mentor or counselor to be.

I am not providing final answers here but I am asking the deep questions because choosing to live a lifestyle is a big decision. Being homosexual is a lifestyle, and being a drug-addict is a lifestyle. If you choose to be a certain faith, or faithless, it is a lifestyle and these choices greatly impact your quality of life. Be sure that how you choose to live, is a reflection of your deepest heart’s true desires. We have the ability to live the life we want.

If we live for God, do we believe what he says, or create our own identity within the faith that we have for him? If we live for God, do we throw it all in, or do we pick and choose? And what does God say about the issue? Many Christian priests with homosexual congregations say that God doesn’t preach about homosexuality but come on people let’s at least be grown up about that.

If I can’t go out and fornicate without it being fornication, i.e, sin, you can’t go out and have sexual relations either. If cursing, and lying and murder, are all in the category of sin, it would make no sense to me that homosexuality is acceptable. So, I’m not trying to figure out if it is sin or not, just whether we identify the “feelings” that we have as spiritual wickedness or spiritually sound.

I am not a judgmental person because God will do enough of that for us when it is our time. I bring this subject up because I still believe that their are a lot of Christians who are battling with sexuality and the ideas of true love. Hopefully this article made your think, and I invite your comments.

Original Publish Date: February 21, 2011 @2:39

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4 Responses to Homosexualtiy as Christians II

  1. I enjoyed your article it was very informative. 🙂 As far as leaders (pastors etc.) When a person is a leader they are higher on Satan’s hit list because he feels like if he can bring them down he can bring many in the congregation down with them as well.

    Speaking on Homosexuality it is a lifestyle that many people live and it’s great that you aren’t judgmental about it. Prayer is a powerful thing. 🙂

    • Shalona, Please forgive my ridiculous tardiness in response to this blog. Thank you for responding. I have written a number of blogs since last year, and I hope you get to check out other articles you like and share.

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