“You are not the victim once you start telling your story, you are the victor!” – Johnnetta Mcswain
Emmy Award Winning, Johnnetta Mcswain is a woman to which I hold high regard. I am not fascinated by her story. I am overwhelmed by the desire to cry without ceasing. Her story is one that is more common than I would like to acknowledge.
In the commonality of her story feel no numbness, we should feel every single painful memory, and experience with a violent commitment to eradicate child sexual abuse in families. The secret you keep is not a secret at all.
Here is a quick excerpt from her book: Rising Above the Stars
My Dirty Little Secret:
Johnnetta Mcswain is open, and genuine. She is a fantastic example of a woman who was born with a strength from God. All three Uncles are dead now. One of the three Uncles who were brothers, Adrian was shot and killed by the brothers of the girlfriend he abused.
He passed when Johnnetta was approximately six or seven years old. Harry, another Uncle, was serving over thirty years for rape when he passed away due to poor health a few years ago. Harry had a box with a picture of Johnnetta and Sonya when he was found. For many predators, this could represent conquest or trophy, and not apology or conviction. The other brother passed away due to a heart attack, last year.
Sonya, Johnnetta’s sister has suffered psychologically from the effects of the abuse she experienced at an early age. Sonya is embattled with clinical Depression, Schizophrenia, and is HIV positive. She speaks locally at schools in Birmingham, Alabama, and is now facing a life decision to be committed to a residential facility.
Her cousin who is believed to be the result of an incestuous relationship between his mother and grandfather has been incarcerated for murder and may be released from prison soon. He has struggled with his sexuality as a result of the rapes that he experienced and witnessed from their uncles. Johnnetta looks forward to having a conversation about healing from the trauma of abuse along with her sister as an intervention for her cousin.
Positive Parents Preventing Predators
What is most impressive about Johnnetta to some is her education. As the Emmy Award Winning Documentary below provides, she obtained a GED after dropping out of high school years earlier. She then pursued and accomplished a Bachelor’s in Communication, and a Master’s Degree in Social Work. She is currently working on her Doctorate.
I will leave educational agenda to the media and the nay-sayers surprised by her ability to rise above her scars to such a place of educational and institutional prominence. However, because my focused intention is healthy relationships, and healing I can not help but notice that Johnnetta has been a parent who broke the cycle of abuse in her own children.
What I find blood line preserving is her ability to overcome her own abuse motivated by the gazing eye of her children’s soul. There was a call to action in her sons eyes, and she responded.
I had the rare pleasure of speaking with Ms. Mcswain on the telephone for this interview for about three hours, and what I found out empowered me. She knows what I know. Sharing your story is not about being a victim, it is indeed about the victory of your healing. Sharing your story is not to exploit child sexual abuse, yourself or your family.
What we do with our whole lives poured in is help those who read my blog, or listen to us in an audience develop the knowledge to prevent or stop abuse in their own lives. We support adults who, like Sonya and my sisters are angry, depressed and in pain by creating systems that work to support their healing process.
Only forgiveness can lift the heaviest weight of abuse. We speak with an international audience to declare that you brand your life, and not others around you. The abuse that we’ve experienced may seem like Precious but we have indeed chartered our own courses, and created alternative endings.
Even we are not the same. As we aim to eliminate child sexual abuse, and facilitate healing what remains paramount is the clarity that abuse is not the main topic. Abuse is part of your story but what you do with your healing is the heart of your purpose which takes out the old and ushers in the new, fresh life producing experience to which we all are re-made.
The Business of Child Sexual Abuse
In a total business sense, when I Googled the word, abuse, it came up exactly About 1,200,000,000 results (0.11 seconds). With this total in the google engine, all movies made by Tyler Perry, Precious and books like, I know Why the Caged Bird Sings, or The Color Purple, it would seem that the industry is over saturated with information about Abuse, over the years.
In the last year we’ve fired, supported, maimed, and read the eulogy of Joe Paterno due to his alleged role in keeping silent with one of his coaches Jerry Sandusky who raped boys for fifteen years. There was a scandal with Syracuse and my personal favorites Darrell Gilyard who served three years as a Rapist in a prison, and upon release was returned to the pulpit. And, of course Eddie Long.
The Catholic Church, and other sects of Christianity have dealt with this openly but now that the baptist and non-denominational groups are speaking out, what will happen to the business of the church?
The real business of Child Sexual Abuse is the $124 Billion that it costs over the life span of the one in four women and one in six men who are reportedly sexually abused before the age of eighteen, who develop mental, and physical illness because of the effects associated with this epidemic.
This however, is one thing that we as a body of people can control. By speaking out, our tongues and our voice become the beat and the drum that make the eradication of sexual crime as organized and viral as KONY 2012.
We can be the pulse of a revolution that stands up to abuse to scream, I Have the Power to Say NO!
We thank her for operating in strength and empowering women be victorious, limitless and broken. This is Child Sexual Abuse Awareness Month and Johnnetta McSwain was chosen to be profiled on Love, Life, and Relationships: Overcoming Emotional and Child Sexual Abuse because she is a leader, creating a platform for others who are ready to break their silence and transform lives to follow her tenacious example.
Johnnetta McSwain, MSW, Ph.D. candidate
CEO and Founder Breaking The Cycle, Beating the Odds
Empowerment Speaker, Author, Life Coach
Johnnetta has since founded the organization, Breaking the Cycle: Beating the Odds, developed and facilitates a mentoring program, and is ardently pursuing her Ph.D.
Rising Above the Scars, written by Johnnetta McSwain, was released November 19, 2010. It is a factual and striking account of real-life events intended for women of all ages.
Its objective is to help those who have been victims of child abuse to begin the healing process, in order to transition from victim to victor.
- Who are Child Sexual Abuse Predators? (ressurrection.wordpress.com)