We are sometimes under the impression that we are proactively seeking our dreams, and in our relentlessness we are actually waging war with ourselves. We make things much harder than they have to be at times because we do not rely on our inner-voice rather, we calculate what appears to make sense in the moment. We are often motivated by our emotions which mislead us where wisdom desires to set a standard.
Over the last few years a culmination of events have taken place in my life as a result of my thinking, misguidance and quite frankly the necessity to learn as we grow. For some people who I will call “safe people” they will obey the whole “don’t touch the stove because you will get burned” wisdom while others will want to know what this statement means, literally. Some people, and it is safe to say that I have fallen into this category, want to know the variations in temperatures. Just how hot does the stove have to be in order for me to actually get burned? I consider myself in a large group of risk takers. These are people who are willing to afford the risk in order to pursue their dreams, learn explore and grow.
Now, depending on what group you self-identify with you may have some thoughts on the opposite side. In the last few years, the reason for me choosing to twist my hair into fine coils and call them dreadlocks has resurfaced. My motivation then was two words that I heard whispered to me from the most high, “Moderation” and “Balance”.
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It is now that I am learning exactly how to apply this to new areas of my life. What does it mean to be emotionally balanced. What does it mean to be true to yourself and walk in love? What does it mean to have patience without procrastination? Honestly, we all travel this road at different places in our lives but when we are able to sit down for a moment to ask and answer questions that help us to grow closer to God, and closer to ourselves we began to have a clarity that is unmatched. I truly believe that there is a greater level of strength released to you as you come into yourself.
I know who I am, and truthfully I have always known but that is my personal testimony. So, it is hard for me to mouth words relating to self-awareness as if I haven’t known. What is true however is the fact that I take a unique interest in becoming all of whom I am called to be everyday. It has been important to me to be connected to the right relationships in business, marriage and family. These areas have always concerned me.
Now, as I grow I am understanding on a deeper level how important it is to live in total balance and moderation of all things. Whether you are a procrastinator or a person that moves a little too fast, the word for today is wisdom.
I want to encourage you to take a quick self-assessment without looking to your left or your right. Do not compare yourself to your peers to determine where you should be in life. Some people may think I’m famous or well-known, and some people may think that I am behind!
In my heart, I don’t care to be famous to be honest, but I will take wealthy. Wealth does give you options. The point is, I have certain goals and as long as you and your family keep those goals in front of you there is no time to discuss things that can bring you to an idle place.
Here are three tips to help you to Celebrate Your Now, and start Moving Forward!
- Write The Vision For Your Family – Whether you are married or single you can sit down and write out what you see for your family. How you want to live, have faith, give, receive, and relate to others. This helps to set a positive foundation. It makes you unstoppable.
- Write Goals That Express The Experience You Want To Have – I have written several blogs on having the experience that you want to have. I did so for relationships and have express that eight months after doing so I met my husband, and eight months after meeting him he became my husband. When you write want you want it is a list, when you write the experience you can see it, you step inside of it and you relate to it as if you already have it.
- Meditate: Pray, Be Still – I used to have a habit of telling my dreams to people who either didn’t care about them or did not believe me. How awful to treat my dreams this way. The only one who has to know or believe in your vision is you. If you have a support team as I do now, by all means share but be careful who you share with. I believe that your vision is written so others will do something about it. Only part of what we do requires us to speak, the other part is action. Meditation is action too. Sometimes we need wisdom in order to move in the right direction.
To elaborate on movement, using wisdom will help you avoid pitfalls. Celebrate your now, do not be shy about the things that you have accomplished, and recognize the areas that need improvement. Like your visions, you also do not have to confess your issues to anyone outside of your prayer time.
One of the things I am learning to do is to just breathe. To remember that if it is meant to be it will be. I can remember mistakes I’ve made with writing and other areas of my life thinking that tomorrow may now come, when the truth is if tomorrow isn’t here maybe that action wasn’t necessary anyway. I am not a procrastinator. People who have thanked me at times or complimented me always talk about my follow through. They said that I “say and do”, and people have come to depend on that as a part of my character.
What I am learning myself now is that how I get there can determine whether I get to enjoy when I get there! So, procrastinators get rid of fear, take off the safety and put in some action, while you doers before thinking, can use a little of what procrastinators have. We do too much! Some people think too much! The point is to always align ourselves with balance. If you could adjust one thing in your life – one character trait, what would it be? How would it help you to give just weight to a tipping scale?