To Learn The Heart Of Your Siblings
This can apply to any family member that attends counseling with you. You may not agree with your siblings news or life choices but perhaps hearing why they have made certain choices can help you to develop strategic prayer on their behalf.
In severe circumstances, you may realize that someone is in danger and can help to intervene before a family member acts on any criminal desires to harm and/or sexually abuse someone else. Sometimes learning the heart of your siblings can end the rivalry once and for all and usher in love.
I remember watching one of those real life lock up shows. There was a man who was just released from jail. He and his family lived in a gang and drug infested neighborhood. His entire family was slain. Only one small child survived who unfortunately will have to live with this memory. I cannot remember if the boy survived after he told the cops who did it but I do remember that he had not been awake for several days before the cops could get an answer from him.
They interviewed different people in the neighborhood even arresting one of the King pen dope dealers who could call the shots on a murder like this. The police were even saying that this was not his style. There appeared to be no real motive. The brother pointed to the King pen, yet he was unusually calm to me. The sister and mother who were not present (which may have saved their lives) were in total shock and very distraught. The brother who was killed was a good guy for the most part. He had a wife and at least three children that I remember.
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Needless to say it was the jealousy of the brother who had just been released from jail which prompted him to murder his entire family. Again he killed his brother, sister-in-law, nieces and nephews. I don’t know about you, but I want to know the heart of the person that I am spending any amount of time around.
Am I suggesting that you should beware of your siblings? Not unless this message is screaming to you that you should. What I am really saying is that there may be some things about your siblings that you do not know. They may be a sexual predator, murder or involved with someone who is. On the other hand, they may have their own story of survival and having the freedom to share their story with you could create a fresh start with your relationship. There could be a bond formed that will never be severed as a result of this counseling.
If you believe in God, and his presence know that if you invite him in, he will bring himself there and healing will take place on the inside of each and every one of you. If there is a plot against your life, it may be removed by this process.
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RECAP: So here are my ten reasons that you may want to initiate and/or attend family counseling:
- To forgive yourself
- To forgive others
- To learn the heart of your siblings
- To get questions answered
- To become comfortable sharing who you really are
- To create a family vision
- To break generational curses
- To change roles
- To win souls
- To re-engage in family traditions
Each numbered reason above represent why you should or would consider family counseling, even if you feel that your family is functional and intact. There is a tremendous amount of healing and liberty that happen when you choose to have a courageous conversation with family.