Ten Reasons You Should Attend Family Counseling – To Create a Family Vision

To Create a Vision

The bible says that without vision the people perish. It also says that you should write your vision and make it plain. When business owners get a vision of how they want to provide a service, create a product or build a system, they write a vision called a business plan.

When we as couples want to envision the success of our relationship we must write our vision and make it plain. This is often suggested during Christian sponsored premarital or couples counseling.

The family vision serves as a moral compass, a goal monitor and a relationship organizer. And yes, being spontaneous can still be a part of your vision even if you plan everything.

For those of you who utterly despise writing like my husband, you can always write a life list, or do a vision book like the one Queen Latifah created in the movie she starred in with LL Cool J, called “The Last Holiday.”

Many families have come together to build a family business. I believe that before you can trust each other with your ideas, you must be able to counsel in any areas that are unresolved in your relationships.  Only then can you truly come together and write a vision that you all can see and run with.

Visions are visuals of what you believe will happen with effort. Sometimes people have idle dreams of becoming a star or a rich person but they have no real vision of what that position looks like for them. They often do not have a plan in place that will ever make the dream a reality. Some idle dreams are just faith-building concepts that do not ever materialize. They don’t materialize because perhaps they were not meant to happen at all. Or at least what you see in the day or night dream is just a hint of the life you can expect. Let me give you an example.

When I was younger, I would always see myself singing and dancing on stage. I also saw myself speaking on stage. I have always seen myself on a platform, a very large platform. Perhaps the dream would show me what level of platform that I would have, but I was never meant to be Beyonce.

I am in awe of her gift – but any stage that I am on will hold a different purpose and responsibility. As a side note, I do have a dream to dance one day on stage with Beyonce. I want the whole sha-bang! I want to have rehearsed choreography and all. Secretly, I have a Beyonce fetish as Oprah to Tina Turner.

Part of my Family Vision is seeing my husband have the experience that he wants to have in life; Fulfillment. Pictured: Jesse (Left) Versandra Kennebrew (middle) and Deven *my husband* (right)

Many people who are in financial crisis experience the confusion of idle dreams and a bon-a-fide vision. I believe that visions come from God and they are a part of who you are. The vision becomes an unshakeable goal that causes you to get up and do whatever it takes within reason to live and breathe the manifestation of said vision.

When you choose to include family counseling in your healing process, you activate a vision that family counseling helps you all to write out and make plain, so that all of you can hold responsibility for your individual efforts, contributing to family unity, partnerships and success.

Ressurrection Graves is a child sexual abuse expert and relationship mentor. She is available for speaking engagements and interviews via telephone or nationwide. Please subscribe to her blog —>

RECAP: So here are my ten reasons that you may want to initiate and/or attend family counseling:

1. To forgive yourself
2. To forgive others
3. To learn the heart of your siblings
4. To get questions answered
5. To become comfortable sharing who you really are
6. To create a family vision
7. To break generational curses
8. To change roles
9. To win souls
10. To re-engage in family traditions

Each numbered reason above represent why you should or would consider family counseling, even if you feel that your family is functional and intact. There is a tremendous amount of healing and liberty that happen when you choose to have a courageous conversation with family.