Home for the Holidays: How the Homeless and Collegiate Sexually Abused Handle This Time of Year

Borrowed from Writing for Recovery (A WordPress Blog)

Borrowed from Writing for Recovery (A WordPress Blog)

During the holidays more than any other time of year we are concerned about good tidings and the condition of the homeless who are without gifts. We are not so much concerned with the plight of homelessness, unless that is our focus during other times of the year, however we are more open to giving to the homeless when we begin to talk about Black Friday specials, Cyber Monday, Turkey and the kind of tree we recognize Santa is riding his reindeer to get to, almost from birth.

As a homeless advocate or Life Skills Expert, it is my desire to give a voice to homelessness in a way that empowers others to see the issues surrounding homelessness during every other part of the year, like how can we end it?

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In addition to homelessness, I am extremely passionate about helping people who have been sexually abused come back to themselves, realize their visions and predestined purposes. In order to recognize predestined goals they must heal from their painful experiences. During the holidays there is a spike in rape on college campuses because people who have been sexually abused, aged out of foster care, or whose family deceased while they were in college are unable to return to the place they called home.

There is often less security on campuses during the holidays, and students who can not hitch a ride to celebrate the holidays with their college roommate or classmate, may stay on campus with others who are not able to go home for whatever reason.

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Specifically concerning those who have been sexually abused since they were children by someone inside the home, or someone who visits during the holidays, most people in this situation leave for college and vow not to go back home. What about people like me who have a broken family as a result of someone who was abusive psychologically, physically, emotionally and/or sexually at home?

Enjoying the sun

Everyone should feel free like this

Should you suffer again each year in tormenting fear of going home so that you don’t have to be alone? Should you suck it up and pretend that the memories don’t invade you when you see the persons face? Should you pretend that you are safe at home, even after confiding in a family member who dismisses your claims? What if there is no home to go to for the holidays? Many homeless people are homeless because there is no family home to go to in times of crisis much less celebration.

Many times pedophiles live off of the fact that they are not violent. From my research of studying pedophiles it is almost an unwritten language of pedophilia to present themselves non-violently. We believe that violence can only be expressed physically, almost as much as we deceive our children that words don’t hurt, that they have absolutely no effect and if they do, it is because you have welcomed this to yourself.

As a people, we spend our whole lives blaming, minimizing and even ignoring the victim. This must end, and you deserve a safe place. Do not apologize for your concerns, your apprehensions. If there is something rising inside of you saying that going home for the holidays will hurt you in some way seen or unseen, you are not required, and you are not going to hell for making a choice that keeps you in your whole, sound of piecing together but fractured mind.

Spiritual and Emotional Abuse

Words hurt. They can kill.

My husband and I were both homeless. It is how we met. I was sexually abused as a child. We understand more than anything what it can like to be distant from dysfunction, to desire healthy relationships, and to overcome adversities. We know what it is like to be isolated, and to be accepted. We know what it is like to be empty, and to be full. We know what it is like to be lost, and to be found.

While you are healing from the sexual abuse that  you have endured, we want to help you. I feel strongly about offering this safe, supportive place for victims of sexual violence and incest this holiday season.

If you are in the Washington DC area and need a place to have dinner, watch a movie, and hang out while you are healing my family welcomes you. I’m serious. Christmas or my birthday which is New Year’s Eve help fill my home with love, laughter and positive light.

We want you to come in, take off your shoes, grab some tea and have some chill time with us. I’ve got to warn you. It’s cozy! All you have to do is contact me either on Facebook HERE by inboxing a message to me, or sending an email to ressurrection dot wordpress at yahoo dot com.

Happy Holidays,

Ressurrection and family

About Ressurrection

Ressurrection Graves is a Child Sexual Abuse Grooming Expert and H.E.A.L.E.R. (Healer, Educator, Activist, Life Skills Expert, Empowerment Speaker, Relationship Mentor) Her website reaches readership in 188 countries. She is available for national speaking engagements, radio and television interviews. She can be reached at: 202.717.7377 or send your request to: ressurrection dot wordpress at yahoo dot com or comment on http://www.ressurrection.wordpress.com
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