We are in the middle of April, which is National Child Abuse Prevention Month in the United States of America. However, depending on your cause as it relates to child abuse, you will notice that some people call it, National Child Sexual Assault Awareness Month or some other variation.
My work is specific to child sexual abuse grooming so we use this month to advocate for victims, and offer support to those healing from abuse using various campaigns.
Today, I received a comment on my Facebook page responding to my status which said that people should not post naked pictures of their children on Facebook. The commenter responded, sounding as if to correct me with this statement:
Pedophiles can use all kinds of shots of the kids- at the beach, lounging around the house, and they also like pics of kids eating things. Some have nothing better to do than mine random pages for the one or two usable images, which can add up to thousands of perfectly legal photos.
In response to her I said in part:
You have absolutely proved my point that the naked baby picture should not be made available to be downloaded by perpetrators.
The person whose profile picture was a cartoon and who was not identifiable on their page also sent an inbox message which said this:
Dear Ms. Graves, While I support in general your work to protect children, I have looked everywhere and I cannot find where you define child sexual abuse grooming. I understand that joining a church, befriending a child of a struggling single parent, going camping, and doing special things together which includes having secrets might any or all be CSAG, but it isn’t necessarily so, nor should any of that be criminalized. IF it results in CSA, the abuse is the crime. It seems this is a tricky area which might get some support because of peoples’ prejudices, but is not sound law. I know your motives are good. You have avoided the main issue- criminalizing normal behavior. Thank you for reading this feedback.
I will respond to the hidden person behind the cartoon profile picture here in an effort to correct her statements, and answer any questions that others may have as well.
- I define child sexual abuse grooming in general everywhere! I have provided a full definition in my upcoming book. If you want the general definition it is “child grooming” minus the other forms of child sexual abuse which currently sit under the definition which include child trafficking, abduction, and online pornography, for example.
- It is impossible that you did any kind of formal search. I am on video talking about child sexual abuse grooming, I have created/coined and introduced the entire phrase and have written many blog articles on the subject. When you google child sexual abuse grooming or premeditated child sexual abuse, my articles come up in search engines.
- If you can make a list of actions that YOU identify as child sexual abuse grooming, it makes no sense that you can say that it is not criminal. You clearly identify that you understand that child sexual abuse grooming is real. However, you have not done ANY homework on grooming. Grooming is a process, an escalation of events and some of your description which you identified as CSAG behaviors are often only one part of what happens during the grooming process.
- You say that Child Sexual Abuse Grooming is not nor should it be a crime, but would you say that of premeditated murder? Premeditated Child Sexual Abuse is not different in that the perpetrator is aware that he is drawing confusion, manipulating the victim child, and often the adults around them with the sole intent to abuse.
- The fact that you can say that “It seems this is a tricky area which might get some support because of peoples’ prejudices, but is not sound law,” makes me think that you are a pedophile and your lack of profile identification only add to the suspicion. I don’t understand what you mean by someone being prejudice about not wanting to have their children taught or connected to in any way, a pedophile. I also do not understand how you can say that premeditated child sexual abuse grooming is not “sound law” when in the beginning of the article you said you could not find what the definition of child sexual abuse grooming is, in the first place. Lastly, “sound law” is your word, and while is sounds educated, it’s like saying that premeditated murder is not “sound law”. The people make the laws, and when we sit down to craft this one, I will ensure that innocent people are not prosecuted for grooming behaviors.
- Many adults who were sexually abused as children have made very clear that much of the psychological problems stem from both the physical sexual abuse, and the child sexual abuse grooming which sought to intentionally silence, scare, manipulate, confuse and otherwise harm them.
- I know my motives are good, and I have not avoided the main issue, you have failed to do your homework. If you type into your google search engine, or any search engine for that matter, Make Child Sexual Abuse Grooming A Felony, the petition surfaces. Your message and comments were posted on my Facebook page where many articles, definitions, topics, explanations, links and even a copy of the petition in the “NOTES” section are posted. With all due respect, you haven’t look for anything.
Thank you for reading this feedback.
Ressurrection Graves is a child sexual abuse grooming expert who has authored a petition to make it a felony. She writes, speaks and educates the masses on protecting children and healing as adults from past child sexual abuse.