Five Reasons Christians Support Same-Sex Marriage

We live in a time where many have reverted back to the elementary school playground, during recess time when you played Up-and-Over to see how fast you could jump over long, thick steel parallel bars that were planted on the ground, near the monkey bars.

The object of the game was for you to run and jump over the bars faster than your opponent, and tag the next person to do the same. The fastest team wins.

On the Playground

On the Playground

In that same playground, you had children who were without opinion, and had no real desire to lead, so they followed. You also had children who were boisterous and confident whether their opinion was going to lead others astray or not. A few of those little leaders became bullies when they left children no choice to have their own opposition against following their every command. The bully was the dictator, and if you are anything like me you were prepared to fight – willing to become the bully’s opponent to escape their dictatorship.

The subject of bullying is alive and well in adult societies all over the world. I remember when I was young it was taboo to disclose what your political party affiliation was, or who you voted for. Today it is taboo to disclose your affiliation with God. Prayer in school has been replaced by clubs, and teachers who instead promote politics and involve children in the political party process, even using student government to teach about how they should feel concerning agendas, without parental supervision. The question remains for many people, how do you live your life faithful to your beliefs as a Christian?

In the above video, the commentator spoke about Jason Collins’ announcement. I believe the “coming out” mantra is a part of the strategic plan for acceptance, a promotion of an agenda to for homosexual inclusion as a sexual orientation. In contrast, Christianity has been attacked and gay pastors have infiltrated the church only to spread the lie that conforming with save Christianity. Jesus Christ is the savior, not the other way around.

And, for many, the question has been abandoned and compromise has set in. The Five Reason Christians Support Same-Sex Marriage is written to start a conversation and to help those who are Christian to self-examine whether we are compromising who we are (because no one should do that), or if we are in fact acting out of our true beliefs.

#1: Fear

·         That you will alienate your friends who have a different belief system than you do.

There are many subjects that you and your friends may not have the same view on, and if this subject makes you lose friends you must question how self-sustaining your friendship was to begin with. If you believe that it will weaken your platform then you have to weigh whether it is a topic relevant to discuss or not, but you should never fear speaking about what your bible says.

It seems that we now live in a world where, like my playground analogy adults are bullied to keep silent if their views disagree with the promoted agenda. And, political bullies have began to use any tactic possible to alienate others who disagree with their positions regarding pieces of legislation.

The bible is clear that there is no fear in love. Hate and love are not the opposite of each other, that is actually something that the world teaches. Love and fear are actually opposites. God is NOT a co-existent being. This should answer the homophobia question. If you are around homosexuals, and you love them, you do not fear them, however you can still disagree with their lifestyle choice when you have to vote on it in the polls. Their lifestyle should not intimidate or quiet you no more than someone who is a fornicator.

I disagree with fornication, I believe it is sin. It does not mean that I have never fornicated however it just means that I understand from a biblical standpoint that it is considered sin, and not God’s desire or best for my life.

Lastly, when you allow yourself to be bullied or when you allow yourself to feel shame as a result of your review of your own sin, you make the debate about you. Same-sex marriage is not about you, what you did last night, your sins or anyone else’s sin for that matter. Same-sex marriage is unbiblical and marriage is a term that is spiritual only. There is nothing equal about same-sex marriage; nothing.

The moment you realize that you can put your confidence in God, you can stand on his word, and you can believe something without the approval of others, you will be able to use your voice with love, and vote in the direction that may empower others to do the same.

Rodney King says, “Can’t we all just get along?” I say, “Can we be mature enough to disagree?” This is not about you! God is the one who said that same-sex marriage is unbiblical and that homosexuality is sin not you, so why are you allowing others to burden you with this bullying tactic? Remove yourself, and stand for God.

#2. Misconceptions about Christian Voting Rights

  •          I’m supposed to keep the bible and the polls separate.

Who told you that? If you are a Christian which simply means a follower of Christ, and you believe what he says then you understand that YOU are the church, and that the separation of church and state has been diluted and misrepresented by people who do not want you to vote based on your beliefs. It is really important that you choose to ask God who you should vote for, and what you should believe about certain matters. He will tell you, and it will not be contrary to himself.

  •        What I personally believe has no relevant impact on someone else

If this is true then why do we need to vote in the first place because this would mean that what someone else personally believes has no relevant impact on you! And, what someone else believes does have an impact on you. For example, my fight is to ensure that pedophilia is not legalized. There are a group of PhD professionals, some pedophiles, who believe that sex with children should be legalized, and that pedophiles are harmless so they should be able to foster children, adopt and teach them in schools.

As far as same-sex marriage (not homosexuality), the impact is great for the definition and foundation of marriage which is founded on biblical principles. Marriage does only mean a man and a woman – period. There are groups aiming to abolish marriage altogether. So, the plan is the vote to legalize same-sex marriage and then put another bill on the table to abolish the definition, structure and marriage recognition altogether.

Here is what Masha Gessen had to say about it:

“It’s a no-brainer that (homosexual activists) should have the right to marry, but I also think equally that it’s a no-brainer that the institution of marriage should not exist. …(F)ighting for gay marriage generally involves lying about what we are going to do with marriage when we get there — because we lie that the institution of marriage is not going to change, and that is a lie.

The institution of marriage is going to change, and it should change. And again, I don’t think it should exist. And I don’t like taking part in creating fictions about my life. That’s sort of not what I had in mind when I came out thirty years ago.

I have three kids who have five parents, more or less, and I don’t see why they shouldn’t have five parents legally… I met my new partner, and she had just had a baby, and that baby’s biological father is my brother, and my daughter’s biological father is a man who lives in Russia, and my adopted son also considers him his father. So the five parents break down into two groups of three… And really, I would like to live in a legal system that is capable of reflecting that reality, and I don’t think that’s compatible with the institution of marriage.”


Day One Woman: An Original Painting By An African-American Artist; My favorite Painting.

Day One Woman: An Original Painting By An African-American Artist; My favorite Painting.

Marriage will always remain a spiritual covenant however, the message has become so diluted by the fight to end marriage and create a free sex society where everything goes, including but not limited to fornication, child sexual abuse, incest, polygamy, bestiality and pedophilia.

#3. No Doctrinal Understanding

Doctrine is a system of beliefs. When you say that you are a Christian, you are not necessarily saying what you believe. Christianity is viewed as an organized religion but someone who is a “follower of Christ”, which is the definition of Christian, understands that a relationship must be established.

In this relationship you began to study Him, just like you study your own friends or family members. You know what they like or dislike. Your spouse is the best example of this kind of relationship because of the intimacy that is presented. I could teach on this all day but to keep this segment short think of it this way:

Mormons (who call themselves Christians) believe that GOD came down from heaven and had literal sex with Mary who was about 12 years old, and impregnated her with his super-sperm to make Jesus. Catholics (who call themselves Christians) don’t even pray to Jesus, they pray to Mary.

According to an article on this website concerning a rally in support of Same Sex Marriage recently:

But one group that wasn’t there in any official capacity was the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints—a.k.a. the Mormons—which perhaps more than any other religious group was responsible for getting Prop. 8 passed in the first place. In the five years since the LDS church sent busloads of the faithful to California to canvass neighborhoods, and contributed more than $20 million via its members to support the initiative, it has all but dropped the rope in the public policy tug of war over marriage equality.

“It seems like the [Mormon] hierarchy has pulled the plug and is no longer taking the lead in the fight to stop same-sex marriage,” says Fred Karger, the LGBT activist who first exposed the church’s major role in the passage of Prop. 8. “The Mormon Church has lost so many members and suffered such a black eye because of all its anti-gay activities that they really had no choice. I am hopeful that the Catholic Church cannot be far behind.”

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It is not enough to claim that you are a Christian because your other option is Satan. The truth is, many people I believe claim affiliation to Christianity even if they have no evidence of his presence in their life because they are clear that they believe in a GOD as opposed to Satan, but they won’t take the time to learn who God is, how he functions and his doctrine so that they can align themselves with his heart, and his will.

In other words, their natural choice is God, but it has not become a spiritual recognition; no salvation. In other cases, a person is saved meaning that they have accepted Jesus Christ as their savior, but they have not made him Lord, and do not have any understanding of their identity in Christ, because they don’t know the identity of God.

Do you remember the WWJD wristbands, key necklaces, and all the other marketing materials that went viral to make people think twice before they sinned? Unsaved people were wearing these bracelets as a gesture to think twice about being kind but the truth is, many people saved and unsaved asked a question that they never went to the word to find the answer to. So, this question became a trend, a joke many times during stories where someone was about to fight or at least felt like fighting – but from this question they never learned how to handle anger, or how to resolve personal conflicts.

A lack of doctrinal knowledge is also why pastors are able to successfully misuse their authority, and why atheists can misinterpret the bible and convince you that it is flawed or somehow unreliable. Here is a secret: When you learn to identify God’s voice, your voice, and the voice of the Enemy, you will stand firm in how you live your life, and how to apply what you believe in confidence.

#4: Acceptance

Everyone has a desire to be accepted in their failures, their successes and for their own personal convictions. As much as Satan teaches that people should do what they want, or “Do what thou wilt” as the motto for the Satanic religious text Thelema boasts, the majority of people still want to be accepted even in their rebellion. The truth is, doing what you want does not guarantee that you’ll be satisfied with yourself or how others choose to treat or “accept” you.

I took the liberty to look up the word “Acceptance” and I found some enlightening definitions that describe what we do when we accept Same-sex Marriage or some other issue that is unbiblical and threatens our spiritual observations in this country.

According to various websites acceptance means:

  •        Your belief in something or agreement
  •       The process of approving something
  •       Agreeing to terms and conditions

By definition acceptant means that you are receiving willingly, being receptive and accepting something wholly. The synonym for this word is but not limited to: adequate

In an effort once again, (because this was mentioned earlier) to accept same-sex marriage as a normalized expression of love, and natural progression of one’s committed relationship with their same-sex partner, you are making your fears about the consequences for not accepting this infiltration your priority, thereby making the focus more about you than God.

You did not choose to make homosexuality or same-sex marriage an abomination (which is something that God hates) or sin. You did not create the heavens and the earth and the weight of same-sex marriage is not on your shoulder, so I encourage you, to stop bullying yourself into acceptance because of fear that there will be unrest.

It is not discrimination or a hate crime to say that you believe that same-sex marriage is a sin. It is not uncommon for you to be called homophobic or other names because of your views, if anything accept that and continue to be love.

People who are homosexual, but know your heart will have to understand that you all can maturely disagree and still love one another in whatever capacity you find your connection (family, friend etc).

I defined acceptance so that you would understand how God views your silence. Indecision is a decision, silence speaks louder than words in many cases, and your acceptance promotes sin. We live in a time where the world wants to convince you that sin does not exist. Will you accept this because it makes you feel alone, or will you accept that you were born to walk as a supernatural being who is supposed to do greater works than Jesus, and that you are set aside for such works? You are alone sometimes, but when you are confident, fulfilled, walking in and conscious of your purpose you do not feel lonely.

5. Secret Sin

You struggle with sin of some kind, even a form of sexual perversion as identified in Leviticus 18, which may include same-sex attractions or fornication and you feel that you’re a hypocrite for enforcing something that you are unable to follow.

Pornography is a sin that causes impotence, and many pastors have run after the call on their lives abandoning their duties as husbands first to be pastors. They end up far from God without meaning to do so, and instead of choosing the hard thing which is to sit down, they continue walking in their sin but preaching to the choir. Well, the spirit flows from the head down and the secret sins of the pastor I have found seem to seep into the four walls of his sheep; into his ministry.

The above is an example. It is hard to preach about something that you have not overcome. Before I began to talk about healing from child sexual abuse, and the feelings of abandonment and lack of love I feel from my siblings, I had to confront them, offer an opportunity for us to heal and find a place where we were able to establish healthy connections or peacefully and permanently disconnect.

Perhaps you are struggling with same-sex attractions. You feel that the spirit of sexual perversion has been trying to overtake you. As a believer, you should know that God can absolutely deliver you, and heal you from those thoughts. It is important that you cast down imaginations, no matter what your secret sin.

I called these “secret sins” because that is how you feel about your sin but it’s not a secret because truthfully it is no one’s business but your own, unless you continue to walk in your sin and serve in a leadership role that can affect others. God will often protect you, because he loves you but eventually you will be exposed if you decide not to repent and turn away from the sin.

I want you to understand that your secret sin does not change God’s view of same-sex marriage. It is important that we all live a repented life. It is important if you’re serious about living for God to get out of environments that promote the hype of Christianity, and that we began to demand what is holy. The only way to demand that is to seek God for leadership who will not conform for media and marketing opportunities.

I do not care if I ever have a mega church. It’s not an aspiration but I will tell you this, you’ll get the same God-given message in the middle of Africa where we meet in the middle of the jungle or in my living room. God does not change, but we should. His word should become alive when we read it, and alive in us when we take it in.

There is a difference between a socio-political view,  and a scriptural-spiritual view but somehow with all the information addictions through media and social network platforms which serve as news sources, people are disconnecting from their spiritual gifts including discernment, knowledge and wisdom.

In conclusion, the purpose of this article is to empower Christians to stop comparing themselves to the word to qualify you as a spokesperson. If you believe that Jesus died on the cross for your sins, your faith qualifies you. While Jesus discourages arguments over him, and we are mandated to love, we are given permission to hate sin. We can also speak firmly, with confidence and say that same-sex marriage is a bill that attempts to redefine a biblical covenant.

The other purpose of this article is to clarify that while I do not believe in gay conversion therapy, I do believe that God is an absolute healer. When you receive Jesus as your Lord and Savior understanding that he died on the cross for your healing and the bible says that by His stripes we were healed, it is already sealed. The main ingredient to your manifestation is faith. Homosexuality then is a lifestyle of open rebellion, by individuals who possess a reprobate mind. Homosexuality cannot be compared to cursing or other sins that people turn away from through repentance because one who is openly homosexual believes that they have a right to be whatever they want. This is the teaching of Thelema, and not the bible.

Additionally, I have a lot of acquaintances, family, and connections who are homosexual. My allegiance to my core biblical views do not in any way prohibit me from loving you, no more than having a friend that I disagree with on a separate subject matter unrelated to homosexuality.

I aim to tone down the bullying, increase the confidence of Christian people, and create an atmosphere where people are able to stand firm on their beliefs without personal attacks and criticisms.

Here is a scholarly article about the “Gay Gene”. It is a theological perspective.

Ressurrection writes on subjects surrounding homelessness, and sexual perversion including child sexual abuse. She is available for radio, television and speaking engagements by contacting her office at: 202.717.7377 (RESS)

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10 Responses to Five Reasons Christians Support Same-Sex Marriage

  1. J says:

    I think it is interesting that of all things in the Bible, Christians are so concentrated on this Leviticus passage. What about Leviticus 19:19 “‘Do not plant your field with two kinds of seed.
    ‘Do not wear clothing woven of two kinds of material.” Are you telling me you do not wear any form of mixed material clothing? That all people who have different mixture of seeds on their land are committing sin? Or how about this one Leviticus 19:27 ‘Do not cut the hair at the sides of your head or clip off the edges of your beard.” So, any man who does not have sideburns and a beard is committing a sin? What about women? I am trying to understand how the Christian faith can pick and choose which laws to obey and which to toss aside as if they don’t matter. It always baffles me. And I would truly like answers on this. I am a person who believes in God and a higher purpose and that Jesus died for our sins, however I NEVER get a straight answer when I ask about these things, it is always just danced around and I would love if someone could actually answer this for me. And not just the typical “hate the sin, love the sinner” because that isn’t an answer.

    • in this blog, there is a quote that I found from someone whom I believe did an outstanding job with explaining the answer to your question. Instead of reinventing the wheel, I’m going to simply place the link here for you to click on. Please, feel free to ask me should you have additional questions. And, thank you for stating your opinion without being disrespectful. I think it’s important to have a mature dialogue, even it that means that we’ll walk away, neither converted or in agreement about our beliefs. Bless you, Ressurrection

      • Gwen Goodwin says:

        I was reading your blog and I thought you to be an insightful, intelligent woman and then I read this particular entry. I am a college educated, God fearing woman. I go to church and Bible Study weekly, spend a large part of my free time studying the Word daily as well as volunteering. I also identify as a lesbian and have for years. It always offends me when people like yourself who indulge in fornication or pornagraphy, act as if those sexual acts are less sinful than homosexuality. In another article you speak of how we should forgive child molesters, but gays and lesbians who live peacefully, have families and raise their children with a love and fear for God are automatically doomed to hell? A pedophile who hurts children is ok but a gay man who hurts no one commits the greater sin? A monogamous lesbian who build a life and a family with one woman is worse off spiritually than a woman who sleeps with a different man everynight? “Its not about your sin or whar you did last night” reeks of self righteous hipocracy. Meaning lets talk about my sin so you’ll feel less guilty about yours. Christ Himself said let he who is without sin cast the first stone. Or have you forgotten to “judge not, lest ye be judged”? Im always shocked that the people who have the loudest opinions on gay marriage arent even gay. And with the straight divorce rate being as high as it is, it appears to me, straight people should worry more about their OWN marriages and LESS about the relationships and sexual preferences of others. Unless, of course, those preferences include children.
        NewsFlash: Jesus died for ALL of us, not just pedophiles and the self-righteous. I hope that on your judgement day you are not judged as harshly as you judge others. Blessings…

        • Gwen, thank you for commenting. This article is for Christians who do not believe in same-sex marriage, period. The article was written for those who are intimidated by comments like the ones you’ve expressed above. The point of the article is to say that if you believe in same-sex marriage that is fine, but people who do not believe in same-sex marriage have the same rights to freedom of speech. In the other article that you refer to has absolutely NOTHING to do with this one and the title was not about US forgiving child molesters, it was titled, “Does GOD forgive child molesters?” And the answer is that yes he forgives anyone who earnestly repents for their sins. It is up to you to determine whether you believe that homosexuality is a sin or not. I believe based on the scriptures that homosexuality is sin. As for your other comments about me being a fornicator, I am married. And to your comment about pornography, that was a stretch but I am comfortable being clear that I have no pornography addiction, and do not watch it for entertainment, sport of any other reason – not that I believe this is any of your business. The other challenging part of your comment is that you’re assuming I am dooming you to hell. I don’t have a heaven or hell to put you in. You said that you’re a god-fearing Christian and if that is so, I am assuming you have read the many scriptures that reference homosexuality. Your decision is between you and God. I am not clear about how my sin has ANYTHING to do with yours. I have an opportunity to repent such as you do, and comparing sin is unnecessary. I know that this is a tactic used in the homosexuality community and I in know way presented that here. As for the scripture throwing, some of your words are being used out of context. Lastly, I am an ANTI-PEDOPHILE activist. I do NOT believe that pedophiles should be taken lightly and to imply that is far out of touch. I appreciate you reading the other articles. I don’t apologize for believing that homosexuality is sin any more than you’ll apologize for disagreeing with my beliefs. You’ve proven my point which is that it is okay for us to have different opinions and I nor other Christians should be bullied into silence because of them. I do wish you the absolute best. Peace, Ressurrection

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  3. Great piece. I also wrote one that Challenged Christians to standup and speak out against this abomination but I will not offer it here. This is your time to shine and you’ve done a marvelous job.

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