Pedophiles are Watching Coy Mathis, and Lil Poopy: What these Children have to do with Legalizing Sexual Abuse

I am mortified. I wrote a blog a while back which made some people up in arms about my question whether legalizing same-sex marriage will pave the way for legalizing sex with children.

If you read this article, and the links in them, you’ll understand how Coy Mathis and Lil’ Poopy are being used as demonstrations for future legislation.

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I am not against homosexual people. I do not hate. I am not intimidated by people who choose to make everyone who may not believe that people are born homosexual, homophobic. After a really good conversation with someone today – before writing this article who is homosexual, I want to say that I can not clam everything into one article.

I have a website with over 500 articles. One topic may be specifically on something like this today. And, another day, I may talk about incest which represents 90% of children who experience child sexual abuse. Instead of assuming that you know my entire heart with one article, I encourage you to read more about my stance on ending child sexual abuse.

I did not create the term homosexual pedophile however, I do believe it is important to share information with you that can help you whether you are heterosexual or homosexual, join me in preventing child sexual abuse from being legalized. – Ressurrection Graves

My research is not about homosexual lifestyles rather I raise a significant question:

Will the tolerance of same-sex marriage lead to the legalization of child sexual abuse? Likewise, will the constant media attention desensitize people from noticing child abuse when they see it?

Before you scroll down to answer these questions, I believe it is important to present the reason that these questions is being asked. There are organizations focused on ending rape culture. You will find my contribution to ending the rape culture in hip hop through an article that I wrote about Lil Wayne, Meek Mills, and an over-the-counter drug called S.W.A.G. in an article here.

There are also organizations who are liberating women like One Billion Rising who launched a dance routine around the world and encouraged non-profit organizations ending domestic and sexual violence to join in, upload their own videos and share it so that others can be inspired to break free from the bondage of unhealthy and abusive relationships.

There are also organizations who like my work, want to end child sexual abuse; prevent it and help adults who are healing from their past to lead amazing lives. I have created the term child sexual abuse grooming® and explain its difference briefly here.

I am writing a book that will include more on grooming, and offer Ten Ways to Safeguard Your Child from Sexual Abuse®. In the book, I also talk about how I believe sexual discipleship has taken place among some of the country’s leaders, and I will expose some research that I have found on this topic.

Pedophiles are Watching

Coy Mathis by Kathryn Mathis

Coy Mathis is a 6-year-old child who was featured on the Katie Show. I don’t really care for her content so I don’t watch, but yahoo ran a story that caught my daughter’s attention and she forwarded it to me.

Coy is a transgendered child. Born a boy, and now a girl her family has sought media attention to make the school change its policy to allow Coy to go to the girl’s bathroom. Her mother says this:

“The school is really missing out on something big,” Kathryn, a photographer and certified nurse’s assistant, said during the broadcast. “They could be taking the opportunity to teach all of the students that everybody is different and that we should embrace our differences and we should respect everybody. Instead they’re creating this divided environment where they’re showing all these children that a child is different and we’re going to treat them poorly because of it.”

My daughter’s question was, how is this not child abuse? How can parents get into trouble for child abuse if they allow their child to get a tattoo but not get into trouble if their child is transgendered? A transgendered person is someone who identifies as a male if they were born female, or a female who was born male.

This does not mean that any reassignment or reconstructive surgery has been performed, it simply means that a verbal choice has been made to self-identify as a gender other than the one you were born. The real question is, how could a four-year-old child know that they are transgendered?

There is another way. You can legally become a different gender by having a doctor to sign off on documents stating that you have undergone mental medical treatment to determine that this is something that you really want to do.

transgendered comment

From a professional perspective, I would question the psychologist that encouraged the parents to identify this child as transgendered. I believe that the doctor should be sued for malpractice. There is not way a child that young can be determined a different gender for the rest of their life. I agree with a commenter who said that the children should be taken from the parents. – all five. Additionally, I wrote an article asking, When are your children too old to bathe with you? In the article I say this:

I am going to answer this question as a mother first, and then I will quote research. As a mother, an auntie, and someone who has been around many children, the answer to this question is when you feel that the child is beginning to explore body parts, or when they are old enough to ask questions about body parts.

When they begin to name body parts, and recognize that you all have different or different sized body parts, this is a good time to teach them about their bodies, and to end shared bathing schedules even if it is convenient.

Another way to know is that you will find yourself wanting to cover up around them. There will be internal sensors there to help you. As I asked this question, and looked for answers on mom websites, I noticed that some people gave different ages, and some of those ages were older than the child in this picture. For me, it is when a child is coming into an awareness of the body, boy or girl.

How does a four-year-old boy know that they want to be a girl? Professionals will tell you that if a child wants to play dress up with girl clothing or wants to do things that are traditionally identified as effeminate things, this does not necessarily mean that they are homosexual or transgender. There could be several things to investigate.

I would want to know concerning this Mathis family, how often Coy plays with the girls. I would ask what kind of conversations are had at home where a child would even know with understanding, the difference between a boy and a girl at that age. And respectfully, how is it possible that when the child is traditionally entering an age of awareness of their body parts, that they all of a sudden don’t want those body parts?

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When I called my mother to ask her about the story, she said that she saw the Katie show and thought that the subject was about letting the little girl go to the bathroom. When I probed more, it was revealed that she thought the child was a hermaphrodite, which means that she was born with both a vagina and penis.

More clearly a hermaphrodite is:

A child who is in an intersexual state is classified in one of three categories: 1) true hermaphrodite – an infant born with both ovaries and testicles and has both male and female sex organs. 2) female pseudohermaphrodite – a genetic female with male external sex organs. 3) male pseudohermaphrodite – a genetic male with external sex organs that fail to develop properly, resulting in female or male/female physical characteristics. – Got Questions

My mother’s question really was more related to, why it would be news to let the child go to the bathroom. She also wondered why the parents did not pick a part (after praying of course), and having tests run of the baby’s internal organs to see if the child was born female, or male.

I had questions and so did others who contacted me about writing this article. First, I want to give you understanding about what a transgender person is. If you click here, you will learn vocabulary terms.

Lil Poopy

Lil Poopy, a poor pseudonym I presume was created to rival Lil’ Bow Wow’s young rapping legacy, whose name was inspired by Snoop Doggy Dogg and the Dog Pound who found him, is a 9-year-old fourth grader who was discovered by French Montana in his father’s home studio.

Allowing a child to touch an adult is child abuse.

Allowing a child to touch an adult is child abuse.

The child, was in a video that made references to him being a “Cocaine Cowboy” per his lyrics. In the video you see a typical video hoe or vixen as the entertainment industry has coined women who appear in half-naked clothing and are positioned to make young children experience viral lust through what I would consider soft-porn.

Lil Poopy is from Morocco and part of a group called The Coke Boys. The boy’s father says that the young rapper has “not doing anything wrong,” and that he planned on contacting his lawyer. However,  some people are concerned that the boy’s parents allow him to act out in s*xually suggestive ways while shooting rap videos. – Your Black

Coy Mathis and Lil Poopy Child Abuse

In my response on the Lil Poopy article I had this to say:

This is child abuse, and I’m glad that someone called. To argue that it is okay for a child to be sexually suggestive and slap a woman on the butt is no different than when a pedophile says that the children they have sex with are sexual beings who have enticed and “asked for” sex. This is why my book coming out this year is so necessary.

I believe that we live in a time where the term, “If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.” is being bullied right out of us. Where people who were homosexual, transgendered and for other reasons were discriminated against and bullied, they now bully the opposing view.

If you do not believe that a person was born a homosexual, you are now called a homophobic person. If you are homophobic, you are also cast with discrimination, hate speech and so on. If I give you the freedom to believe and feel what you do, then I deserve the same freedom.

It is unfair. I do not have to agree with something because it is the majority’s rule. I believe that from a spiritual perspective, I can not share what I see about the times that we live in but I will say this, the entertainment and media industries are creating an opportunity for pedophiles to defend their belief that children are sexual beings who can make decisions about their own sexuality. This is extremely dangerous.

Why are you teaching a child to pretend to be something he's not? What kind of lesson is this?

Why are you teaching a child to pretend to be something he’s not? What kind of lesson is this?

Last week it was the story about the child who dressed up as a baby and took photos. You can see my article about that here.  The adoptive mom’s followers tried to bully me for my opinion article there. And, this week it is the 9-year-old boy slapping an adult woman’s behind while his father celebrates his “acting” skills. And, a little boy who tells his parents he wants to be a girl, and they go against the school board who has the right to protect other children from the parent’s personal choices.

This is not about “tolerance” or “liberation”. If so, the parents would understand that theirs is a personal choice and that the other children do not need to make special adjustments for one child. I hope that the school board stands their ground, and I believe that this family and the situation calls for more review.

The children are too young to make life-style choices that would impact their entire lives, especially about sexuality at 4 years old, and I believe that brainwashing has taken place for this child to understand what is going on, and will it be difficult for the child in teenage and adult years.

I believe that allowing these children to be used as demonstrations of sexual beings will prove a climate change in the fight against sexual abuse. You can not stand for everything, and with discernment people need to see past the media angles and incredible marketing to understand that pedophiles are watching.

Ressurrection Graves is a Child Sexual Abuse Expert, and H.E.A.L.E.R. ® which stands for Healer • Educator • Activist • Life Skills Expert • Empowerment Speaker • Relationship Mentor® who writes articles about ending child sexual abuse and homelessness. She is available for radio interviews and speaking engagements at: 202.717.7377 (RESS) or ressurrection dot wordpress at yahoo dot com.

About Ressurrection

Ressurrection Graves is a Child Sexual Abuse Grooming Expert and H.E.A.L.E.R. (Healer, Educator, Activist, Life Skills Expert, Empowerment Speaker, Relationship Mentor) Her website reaches readership in 188 countries. She is available for national speaking engagements, radio and television interviews. She can be reached at: 202.717.7377 or send your request to: ressurrection dot wordpress at yahoo dot com or comment on
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5 Responses to Pedophiles are Watching Coy Mathis, and Lil Poopy: What these Children have to do with Legalizing Sexual Abuse

  1. Shaun says:

    Excuse me ,,i love the fact that you are thinking but your theories are solely based on your up on androgen insensitivity and transgender which is politically incorroect…before you spew your,bogus a few scientifically procen facts about testoserone, dht , and the many enzyme deficiencies that can affect the sexual development of a child…as for lil poopy, he sucks, but his confidence and belief in himself is great for him

  2. I have to respectfully disagree. I adopted a daughter, Marie, when she was six years old. She was quite the tomboy and wore boy clothes. She liked to wear her hair very short. She insisted that she was a boy. Because she had a long history of trauma before she came to live with us, I was not going to traumatize her further by insisting she have the appearance of a girl. She was so strong into being a boy that when we went to the pediatrician she said she was missing the “boy part” and asked him to sew a penis on her Fortunately, the pediatrician did not scream in horror and yell at her. He very patiently told her that if she wanted she could still be a boy inside, but that she would have to wait until she was an adult for any surgery because many things might change before then. He was right. Several years later Marie started to have flashbacks of her abuse, and she quietly informed me that she was really a girl but she had acted like a boy because men don’t hurt boys. I have to say, I was relieved, but only because the life of a transexual is so difficult. I would have accepted her either way. I was fine with allowing Marie to be who she was. It had not caused much of a problem with the exception of not using the girl’s bathroom. To her, she hadn’t been making a conscious decision to be a boy, she truly was just….him. If I were to make her act/dress like a girl at the time, I would have undermined her “true self”, which I think is a lot more harmful (ie child abuse) than letting it just “be”.

    I would also like to respectfully agree with your statement that if homosexuals are allowed to marry it would be condoning pedophiles. If they become parents, they would have no more of a chance of becoming pedophiles as straight dads, in fact, my opinion is there would be less of a chance because if they marry and go through the whole issue of adopting or having an in vitro surrogate, then they really really want that child. That cannot be said for straight dads!

    • Hello, I loved your post because you did not allow the child to go through any major changes. I was a tomboy. I’m not talking about being a tomboy but rather you allowed her time to realize why she wanted to be a boy. I’m alittle confused by your “I agree and I disagree” statements. Also, I never said that there was a relationship between homosexuality and pedophilia rather that there is a strategic plan in place to legalize sex with children by first removing the barriers associated with homosexuality. You don’t have to agree with that because my research can stand on its own. I loved your story and I hope that it inspires many to allow the child to wait until they are older to determine if they are actually going to live a transgendered lifestyle. I do believe that six or any thing under 25 which is neurologically when we stop making unwise or risky decisions, to make a lifestyle choice that would affect the rest of our lives. Thanks so much for reading.

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